You know, for a long time, I was okay with the BBW label, because it indicated that women of size were beautiful, too, in a world that so rarely indicated that was the case. And then the men stepped up, too, (and have here at Pixies as well), to indicate their love of the soft, comfy curves of a voluptuous, zaftig woman--one with a little more sand in the hourglass--just as much as they love the more traditional standards of beauty.

But the more I live, and the more I see and appreciate the diversity of beauty that exists in the people, women and men, all around me, I wonder if the distinction needs to be made anymore. Why not just beautiful women? Aren't we? Of course we are. Somehow, starting off with the "big" seems to be a warning flag: We're beautiful...for big girls. Like we are possessed of some brand of discount beauty...there's beauty, and then there's big beauty. I don't buy it.

Segregating ourselves with a label just has us enforcing the same fascist beauty standards we've always fought against on ourselves, and I'm not sure I'm willing to be complicit in my own derogation.

I don't know, I'm feeling feisty about this. What do you think? Despite the title of this thread, the gents are as welcome as the ladies to share their feelings on this. I'm very interested in your thoughts folks, so don't hold back.

Red

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