First post here, long time lurker tho. Thanks for all the stories and good information. Very "educational"...

Anyway, I am wondering what about clitoral stimulation really gets you off? Is it rubbing really hard, really fast, light touch, slow touch? Or do you like to vary? Do you build yourself up to a really hard and fast climax, or slowly saunter your way there?

Can a woman train herself to only climax through a certain pattern of stimulation? Maybe you can guess where this is going. My SO and I are having difficulties with her orgasms. I find that I don't have the right touch to use my fingers on her clit, and my tongue can build up her excitement, but can't go fast and hard enough to bring her over the edge. It has been the source of much angst.

Thanks in advance for any responses.