Less than a year into our marriage, I was late. I had always been as regular as a clock, we were trying to have a child and I had had no other sexual partners since before our marriage (does it shock some of you to know I was acutally monogamous once?) The store test was negative, but as a nurse I knew it was probably too soon for the levels of HcG to register. (The hormone associated with pregnancy) Happy and nervous, I had a GYN exam done, swab, PAP, etc., and a more sensitive blood test.
The "happy results"?
I was pregnant, and infected with gonorrhea AND chlamydia.
I lost the pregnancy, (this was not a result of my infection. The truth is MANY pregnancies end spontaneously in the first few weeks, often before the woman knows she is even pregnant. If I had not gone to my doctor so soon, I would likely had never known I was pregnant) and filed for my annulment.
Why do I bring up this awful, sordid memory?
I lost my parents when I was 19. I was left money and property. My family lawyer insisted that my fiance' and I have a prenuptual aggreement. His lawyer tried to break it, taking advantage of some of the more bizarre parts of the Napoleanic Code, (the basis for most civil law in Louisiana) but my lawyer was better than his. My ex left only with the few possessions he brought to our marriage. I was left with a distrust and a distaste men as emotional partners.
Kobe's (spelling?) wife, UNLESS they have an open relationship, (they wouldn't admit it if they did, as it is not socially acceptable) is being foolish, I think.
Please don't try to analyze me and my preference for women. I pay quite enough every week for professional analysis.
Wanda
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"I wondered, am I a lesbian, am I straight, or bisexual? Then I realized that I am just a slut.
So where's MY parade?"
---Margaret Cho
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