I try to be careful about all-inclusive and generalization statements. But I have one you can take to the bank.
There is no woman in the world that can not look UP longer than you can look DOWN.

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But its fun learning that.

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.

First of all, talking about your relationship with your s/o...imagine that. Wow. Wish more people actually did that instead of just paying lip service to the idea. Cool that you're doing it.

My wife and I are poly...this nothing to do with the concept of "one girl/guy" is not enough for one person.

It has everything to do with the idea that just because you might love one person does not mean you can't love another, and a rejetion of the societally-induced idea that people "belong" to one another.

The occasional 3-somes (both mmf and ffm) we've had haven't really changed our relationship. But that's because we do communicate, and agree to certain ground rules before doing anything. IOW, we've never had a 3-some just for the sake of having a 3-some. *who* the other person involved was was important and was discussed beforehand. I highly recommend that.

It really is all about attitude and communication.

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On the kinkometer, my kink measures as a sine wave.

Agree with last point, it is all about communication.

Sex is as much in the head as hips, its not the cock or pussy but the person ..all fantasy is just fantasy and v.different from reality. if you don't want to do it then don't - anyone who respects you, will respect this decision - otherwise ditch'em.

If you want to, then do it but be sure, try to imagine how it will feel, not physically mentally eg seeing another girl suck your mans cock? Or kissing him? or him taking her ? Will you be ok with that? and face it someone at some point will get left out - be prepared for that.

Good luck

Wildeye

No desire to engage in a threesome since gettin' hitched.

rabbit

My husband and I have discussed the possibility of a 3some at some point in the future. There was a time when I would have said a definite no...actually I did. Lately though I have been more willing to try different things.....so who knows.

My hubby and I are also considering a 3-some. We've made the
decision to "take the plunge" but now the problem is finding the
"lucky" 3rd party. We've considered calling an escort service,
but I would like to be someone we know who might be open to it.
I would like it to be more personal. I don't know. I do know that it will eventually happen. I would also like to experience being with another woman on my own also. But again, how do you go about asking ??????

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What is essential is invisible to the eye
Only with the heart can one see rightly.

i have been on the other end of that... i was the girl brought in for the threesome.... it was weird at first... of course he wasnt allowed to penetrate me... so it eased the awkwardness. i suggest if you do it limit it to what you are comfortable...like oral is ok but intercourse between them isnt.

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What ever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius power and magic in it.-- Goethe

Hi All
We have been injoying the swinging life style for a year now but will say we have been married for 22 years, before we tried it, we did alot or research and then talked about what we would do and what we would not do, what we held scared to each other and would not do with anyone else, we have both had the fantasy of extra female and extra male we have enjoyed both and as we went into this with the view it was to enhance OUR sexual relationship, not a quicky sex treat, both of us have to have some sort of attraction to either him or her, and we both give and take , condoms are a must and any party has the opportunity to say no and stop at any point in the play.
this give both the opportunity to feel comfortable with what is happening, and feel they are in control of the suitation, All i can say to you is think hard set your boundries and know you can stop it at any point make all involved with play understand this.
it should make for a happy swing time for all concerned.

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I am here to have fun if you want trouble find someone else. :hug:

I feel for people who come into this situaton for the 1st time...

ok 1st up best thing to do is ask yourself is your man wanting to do this because of the distance (how ever far) or because he thinks by giving you this chance your experiencing life to the fullest ?...something to think about asking...

but to move on my husband & I looked for a single girl to join us for a fmf 3sum for 2 years because i am bi sexual & thought it would be great to experience this with him as i had already had fmf's earlier in my life & he well he wasnt allowed lol (ex wife jealousy normal stuff) ...when we couldnt find anyone we both liked or who liked the both of us because i am also a BBW we decided to look into swinging we joined clubs in australia & met some nice people & some not os nice people & we clicked with 1 woman but not with her husband so after 2 time sof playing we found someone else even though I still chat to this other woman .we also found my darling girlfriend & her husband & we play as often as is possible for us all (as we have kids)

but lately I have been wanting to try single guys for a mfm & hubby is kinda ok with it but hasnt quite come round to the idea but the whole thing is whats good for 1 is good for both .
anyway getting off track my husband has no intention of leaving me he loves our life style & he loves playing with other women .
but we are married so we are solid as we can be for now so before you go into it then you need to talk more about it make sure you both want it & stay happy hope this confusing post helps lol....jade :heart:

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