i think my fiance is fixin to break up with me or is thinkin about it....i dont know what to do. it's making me feel terrible. she still lives at home with her parents annd she goes to college and works. she is stressed out i guess. but last week she went home everyday when she wasn't workin and pretty much had space from me. what should i do? she is just acting like she doesn't want to be with me.

Have you talked to her? I don't know if we can offer any advice . . . was there an event that happened that set off this chain of events?

we got in to an argument last weekend. nothing big, and i thought we had settled it. i just dont understand. i mean i'd do anything for her. i bought her a car and i do the little things. i send her out of the blue stuff every now and then. i'm really caring and i'm never given her a reason for doubting me

There is more to a relationship than material things, I would hate it if my partner were to buy me all this stuff, I would think that he's love isn't genuine and that he thinks that he needs to buy my love.
May I ask what was the fight over?
Who's fault was it?
but I think that at the end of the day you really need to talk to her and try and find out what is wrong

Keep us posted!

Sometimes the arguments we have in relationships are symptomatic of deeper problems, not the problems themselves. Women are often much more attuned to the deeper significance of disagreements in relationships than men are.

It may be that your fiancee feels that the issue at the root of your disagreement is still a problem for you or that you've not completely taken on board the point she was trying to make. The only way you'll know for sure is to talk to her about it. If she refuses or tells you that everything is 'fine', you need to insist that it's not; that you don't find her behaviour acceptable and that she's making you feel insecure. This relationship has to please you as well as her, so her saying she's perfectly happy is not enough. You both have to be happy.


On a seperate note, it sounds like you make a lot of effort to make sure she's happy....why do you feel the need to do this? Is it because somewhere deep inside you know that her feelings for you don't run as deep as yours for her? If so, and if this situation is reaching a head, I'm afraid there's nothing you can do to change the situation. All of the gifts and love notes in the world can't make someone love you more than they already do, and such extravagances can often do more harm than good if the stength of feeling is not entirely reciprocal.

As I said before, the only way you'll resolve this is to talk to her.

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ok i got everything out in the open today.
let me tell you the story of everything
ok well about a year ago she cheated on me. she confessed and said she wanted to be with me and she felt i should know cuz she didn't want to hide anything from me. so i thought about it and i realized she was well worth giving another chance. so then we started "fresh" i guess. well i've realized that even though i didn't know it, i was still hloding that against her. i have been jealous ever since. and i know im in the wrong for that. well the whole story with the car is that the one she had messed up beyond repair so i did some looking, found one i thought she'd like. so i had her test drive it thinking she was just driving it to be "looking." she really liked the car, so over the next few days she was still looking for one but she didnt have the money to just get one ya know and she couldn't find one she liked. so i thought, you know we are engaged, and i saw it as something i could do for her to show her i would always take care of her, so i went and bought the one she liked. well we have had a problem with sex as i have said in previous posts. i just seemed to want it for than she does. and i bothered her about it too much. well that was kinda what triggered our argument last weekend. today she finally opened up and told me she was thinkin about breaking up because i was too jealous of her and she said i wasn't the same as i used to be. i talked to her and she said that i couldn't really do anything about it cause she didn't want me to change for HER. and she was upset because she said that this has been going on but i didn't catch her hints and signs seeing this coming. well i told her i have been stubborn and pigheaded and that i see it now. she said she doesn't see why it took so much for me to finally see this and thats when i told her i was stubborn like above. then i told her to give me one more shot and i asked her if our relationship was worth givng me another shot and she said if i controlled my jealousy and stuff(sidetrack- i've never went into jealous rages, just so you know) and not bothered her for sex so much. she told me i had nothing to worry about as far as her going anywhere(<--the jealousy part) and that she was faithfully committed to me. she just couldn't take how jealous i was. she said i took her for granted and i believe i did too. i apologized for everything and told her i would control myself if she gave me another shot and she said that she would put her faith in me that i could and now i have this new chance. and that is pretty much it pf so let me know what you all think.