I am now in my own flat (roughly translates to apartment for my american cousins) and am no longer in the little dungeon under the former family home.
God its good to live in a multi roomed place again all the time with no nagging spouse (now ex) telling me wahat to do and when
It was a hard thing to move away from my kids and i will miss them a lot but they will see me regain my spirit and dignity which will help them understand more fully.
It has cost me dearly in wordly terms as I have signed the house over but I am my own person again.
The support and encouragement from pixies people has been wonderful and has helped me a lot in making the decision and acting on it.
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