Gotta agree with the previoyus advice. Couseling first and then toys or whatever. But please, talk to her about the issues with NO pressure. You have to focus on her first. Best of luck.

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Lots of people talk and few of them know, soul of a woman was created below

I can't get through to her 'cause it doesn't permit
But I'm gonna give her everything I've got to give.

I hear your sweet voice calling
out my name
As I stare from a six foot cell
And from beyond I heard the words
Deceptively Yours