Im a 23 year old male virgin. Im very open to new experiences and suggestions, but i just dont know how to talk to women hwne it comes to that. I have no trouble relating in a plutonic way, but dont really know how to act around girls im attracted to, or even how to tell if they're attracted to me. I really want to lose my virginity soon, but more than that i would like to have a caring, intimate relationship with another person, but can't seem to make it happen. Any advice is welcome. guys or girls.

thanx

B

you just described me, minus the virginity. if my chunky-monkey ass can do it, anybody can. it's all confidence, man. cliche'd, sure, but cliche'd because it's true. do yer thing and, eventually, you'll smash face-first into a chick/dude you dig like a ditch. *shrug* but what do i know?

One thing that would help would be if you quit running out of the chat room before I can say hi (or maybe I am just saying that cause it fuckin drives me nuts!!!!!)......for a virgin you sure do the in and out thing really well Next time just say Hi ...maybe I can hook you up with a sweet, less scary, person

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sorry lilith. didn't know you were saying hi. I just usually go straight to the Jacuzzi room when i've signed onto the chat. i'll make sure to look for you next time

B

I saw your post and thought that I would throw in my opinion on virginity. Some people think that you should loose your virginity to the one you love......BULLSHIT If we all waited around for somebody that we loved, we would be walking sex-time-bombs ready to explode. Carpe Diem buddy.

Don't let the current fascination with "doing it" drive your life.

You relate well with girls, just choking when your own lack

of confidence grabs you.

Let it happen in it's own time, and the "when" will surprise you.

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Sex is sex dude, but if you wanna wait for that special someone thats cool too.

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Clintx3x3, you have a rather interresting point of view, and it's very valid. I will say that, being fresh out of school and the environment therein, where everyone is a walking sexual time bomb, I've seen some really stupid views on sex and virginity. There's an unercurrent of "It's cool to lose your virginity and have sex" and then there's an undercurrent of "It's cool to wait until you're married and then have sex". The fact of the matter is that following either view for the sake of doing so is stupid.
In other words, Phil-e, take it from me, a native of the city of brotherly love as well. Do what you do because you want to do it, because you're ready and because you won't regret it. Be honest with yourself and be yourself and the rest will follow. The desires you confess are unconventional, in that most guys don't openly admit they're looking for companionship. Talk to as many women as you can, find out what they think your strengths are, what they're looking for.
I've blathered enough. If I can do anything else for you, please feel free to leave me a private message.