What do you think. Relationships like this really exist? Urban myth? Ever actually know anyone who lived this way?

they certainly exist. there are christian domestic discipline homes, based on some teachings of the bible. they’re described as relationships where the husband loves the wife enough to teach and guide her, and the wife loves the husband enough to follow his leadership. spanking is used as negative reinforcement punishment. and there are secular “heads of households”, where one spouse takes on the leadership role and employs the same technique.

these are not partnerships, which is what a marriage - or any other form of long-term commitment - means to me. they are a form of submission outside the bedroom, a tacit agreement that one partner is never mentally fit or intrinsically trustworthy enough to make sound decisions for themselves or any other member of the home, nor are they fit to make household decisions. that physical punishment (as opposed to mutual discussion) is the only path.

you would never find me in this sort of relationship - spanking or no spanking, or just downright autocracy. i have just as much of a say about what goes on in this home as does my husband. if we can’t agree, we try to compromise.

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Trees give peace to the souls of men * Nora Waln

The forest would be very quiet if no other birds sang than those who sing the best * Henry van Dyke

some fairly sordid tales, rambles, and anecdotes
Hypothetically Speaking * Something More * Cammy Interrupted * An Experimental Vacation * Masked * so..damn..hot * Thank You * My toy, his idea * no.19 Maple Lane * I Have A Surprise For You * Yesterday * In a Quiet Kitchen * help me decide * untitled prose * more untitled prose

Not by that name. lmao

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Marriage practices have varied widely across time and place.

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Eudaimonia

way to go wyndy.. I could not have said it better myself

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I love the night
I love the element of danger and the ecstasy of flight,
I love the night
I love to dance with a stranger and to feel his delight,
And when the dancing is through, I kick off my shoes,
And I listen to the beating of his heart

A little S&M play is fun at times - but I think I'd get bored if I had to be either the domme or the submissive all the time.

Yup, I'm a switch

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

Here are some links on the topic

http://www.geocities.com/digitsnmaryann/

http://www.christiandomesticdiscipline.com/CDDHome.html

http://www.vickiblue.com/home.html

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
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One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

But Lilith, you excluded the link to your own webcam!

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On the kinkometer, my kink measures as a sine wave.

Ha ha. Mr. Lilith is quiet but he is far from submissive

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
<~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~>
One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

Yes, he's the boss every time Lil lets him.

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

Entertaining stuff! Thank you.

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Eudaimonia

I run things in MY house!!














(....... The washer, the iron, the sweeper, the mop......... )

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PF, this smacks of authoritarianism.

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

Nah, authoritarianism is when PF gets smacked around. Which begs the question of, how often does that happen, anyway?

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On the kinkometer, my kink measures as a sine wave.

in our house i do as im told lol,seriously the bible was written when man was the dominant partner but in reality of the 21st century there is equality amongst sexes,she does as she wants and i do as im told lol but in truth cpls today are more likely to discuss and debate rather than the male being the deciding factor,ive been with my wife since we were both 16yrs old and we are both heading for 44yrs old(u do the maths lol)theres no dominance from either side cause neither of us belive in the "bible",as i have always said "who wrote the bible..........man?????????????" only thing the bible is good for is a read when you dont have wireless internet in your hotel room assuming noone has nicked it lol