What do all of you think. My ex and I did not talk for a long time and then we did again. We started to have sex again. Now she is talking about having another guy on the side as well. I have to say that this hit me like a sack of bricks. The jealous bug really took hold here. I explained to her how I felt about it and her response was get used to it. It is going to happen. I dont know what to do. I mean i enjoy hanging out with her but something like this totally is eliminating my want to play as well. What do all of you think? I know jealousy is just supossed to be an expression of my inner insecurities but still. I dont like it at all.

Maybe it is just me but the whole thing makes me feel cheap and absolutely replaceable. I dont know. How am I supossed to handle this?

She told you what your choices are. She has made her wants and needs clear. If they conflict with yours then it's probably not the relationship for you.

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Yea I think you are right. I am going to have to end my friendship with her totally. Actually as we speak I am telling her not to talk to me anymore and deleting her numbers from my phone.

rzande1,

If that is how she makes you feel, move on. Nothing but bad karma will come from a such a relationship.

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No actually I am totally jealous of her going with anyone because I still want her. I used to date her and still want to date her. She tells me all the time that sometimes she feels like my gf and that she loves me. I hate it but I think if she wants to go sleep with everyone on the damn block she can go ahead. I just simply touch her at all the moment she touches anyone else. it kills me cause i could seriously see spending my life with her but hey whatever. If she wants to become a $*&% then she can do it on her own time.

LOL yea as you can tell I am kinda angry about all this right now. LOL "If you are going to do that well you are going to end up married to bubba that got you pregnant to living in a van down by the river"

Well thats not very nice at all. Why the name calling? At least she had the 'balls' to tell you up front that she will be seeing someone else, more than what some will do!

If you cant cope with it, fine, move on, but dont go name calling your ex cause she knows what she wants in her life!

Comes back to the ole, Men are studs, girls are sluts if the have a few lovers, pisses me off

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actually that is wrong. she always told me that she would be exclusive to me and that she loves me. I never cheated or lied to her. she is my first and only. today she says she can't trust me out of the clear blue and that she wants to do that. I hate the whole thing. lol it has me so worked up thatmy buddy took me out to eat and to get drinks because my blood pressure is through the roof. I never slept with anyone else and expected her to hold up her part of the agreement too. this changes everything. it shows she has lied to me. it shows she has no values or moral and is trash in my book. I am very upset and seriously close to calling her up and telling her to go obsenity herself. I don't work 60 hours a week to be wildly successful for nothing. I wanted to provide for her forever. well forget her now.

rzande1,

If you can, it is probably for the best...

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and btw the fact that I am a guy does not instantly make me the bad part of the equation like a lot of people like to thnnk.

I did not say you were the bad guy as such....but you need to get over it and move on....she has made her choice and was decent enough to tell you of it

Just cause she isnt fitting into your plans anymore.....Badmouthing her for knowing what she wants is wrong.

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Yea well what can I say. It sucks like crazy. So basically I will just keep working crazy ass hours and work more. This way I dont have to worry about any woman. 8 am to 9 pm. That will be good. I will just come home and sleep and go back to work. The only trouble is the weekends when I get out early on saturday and dont work sunday. I will have to find something else to do. Btw she was the only one to see anything in me so after this i am pretty much screwed. It is going to suck to have no relationships the rest of my life. Shit am I going to be depressed even more after all those hours.

Don't be pussy about it now!

I am not being a pussy about it. I am being realistic about it. I am accepting that I have no life and no chance of a woman being in my life. it is fine. It really is. why? Well it is easy. I suck with women. LOL It really is that bad.