As a take off to the recent thread on fantasies, I'd like to better understand what somone(s) refered to as the rape fantasy. What is it? Is it just being used roughly (but not too rough), is it to be dominated a bit, is it to do something you'd like but haven't really tried? (anal etc).. Just curious.

Being dominated, forcefully being "taken against my will" (yeah right lol) and then being treated roughly.

I used to have a boyfriend who would really catch me when I was wasn't expecting it, jerk my pants down, bend me over (Or put me on the floor) and fuck the hell out of me. I loved it. Sometimes, when we were playing that game I'd fight back, excited him. I love the rape fantasy.

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I love the thought of this myself but it actually bothers me to call it a rape fantasy. So I dont call it that. I just tell hubby that I like to be ravaged . To me that sounds much better.

Barb

Seems like we had a discussion about this some while back...I think the general concensus was that many couples enjoy a healthy dose of "forced compliance" in their sex life, but to use the term "rape" in connection with it gives the word a dignity it doesn't deserve...

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Very well put Scotz...I kept trying to come up with a sensible response and just couldn't figure it out.

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The only advice I have is to ASK a woman before you do it! (but maybe at a different time so the romance/surprise isn't ruined). Every woman has different limits in a rape fantasy. Some just want to be blindfolded, or have their hands held above them. Others are OK with bruises, and maybe more...the wounds that would result if real force were used.

In one case, the fantasy means (IMHO) that she does not want to choose sex; in the other she means that she wants to actively fight you for ownership of her body and you have to TAKE it.

BTW -- in case anyone was wondering.....I am in the second camp. Of course, I have a certain liking for pain.....and the challenge of trying to defeat him.

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The whole idea really turns me on, I would love to know that despite my struggles (and I would definitely struggle!), he's stronger than I am and he WILL have his way.

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