Was there a moment in time....or a series of moments...that transformed you from someone who was indifferent about sex to someone who was focused on mastering the art?

Was it a person? An inner journey? Pixies? Something else? What took you from an indifferent lover, to someone obsessed with slaking their need?

How long did the process take? Or is it a cyclic thing with you ~ when you like it, it's good....but you're often indifferent?

I'm very interested in your responses....especially responses from the guys. I am trying to understand my own sexual journey ~ through exploring others' ~ and I am also trying to find a key to sparking someone else's journey.

Thank you for your responses!

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I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

For me, the quality of my sexual experiences with the men in my life has depended upon my emotional relationship with them. I, unfortunately, began the sexual road at an early age, and, more unfortunately, did not have a good "teacher." When I first *really* fell in love--I *knew* I was head over heels--I *immediately* wanted to make myself the most desireable person I could be. I read books, worked on my mindset...and it shows in a *total* change in attitude both in and out of the bedroom.

I'm not sure this helps you, osuche, but I do understand.

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Yep, puberty!!
But actually I've always been a sexual person, ever since I can remember. I can rememebr in primary school looking at the 'human body' books in the library and giggling at the naughty bits!

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The beginning of my sexual awakening came when I first found this place. Until then I was, well I was a prude. It's through talking to people here that I began to see that it was not only ok to like sex but to explore more to find out what I do and don't like. I had a "no list" a mile long but now I just have a few firm boundaries. I had also quit my job and began to live my dreams around that time. I am not sure whether my awakening was purely sexual or if that just happened to be one aspect of a complete spiritual awakening and time of greater self-awareness.

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Agree with CTG, puberty.

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I have been a sexual person since puberty too. Being married to Stud has only made that grow since he is very sexual and has always expected me to be also.

In fact I thought we were fairly kinky in our sex life until I started coming to Pixies and a couple of other sex boards. It has been a very big education for me and I have been on a renewed sexual exploration now for almost a year.

It is also very satisfying to be able to approach hubby with a new idea and have him look at me in surprise. The poor man don't know what has got into me lately. Things I never would consider doing now turn me on.

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There was a period of time when I didn't want to have sex at all, which put a strain on our marriage, (luckily he is understanding) but it was health reasons. After a surgery to clear up some of the problems, it was almost like the doctor left the switch "on". It was completely different and I couldn't get enough of it. Coming to Pixies helps too, mostly the stories for me.

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I have always been veeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrry, sexual (at least I wanted and tried to be) but the ones I was with were not. This in turn led to alot of frustration on my part and haveing to abuse Rosy and her five sisters to a point to where it is a turn off most of the time now. Now it is just for relief when I really need it. I am still mentaly very sexually minded but in the last couple of years have had thoughts of trying things that I never would have. I have this theory, You can;t say you don;t like something unless you have tried it. I am very open to trying things especially sexually. I love anything to do with sex. To my limits that is, and there is only a few of those.

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I didn't enjoy sex until I was around 19. The two experiences I'd had prior to meeting Mrs. WI were technically sex but not sexual at all to me. I'd always been interested in sex, and from the looks of things in movies and print...I knew I'd like it, but it wasn't until I found someone I loved that I really discovered just how much. But then again, I was 19, and having sex with someone that cared about me...not really an awakening.

I consider myself to be an open-minded lover that is interested in trying it all, but care about my partner's hesitance not to push too hard. The advice forum I was a part of for three years prior to Pixies helped me to draw parallels between other people's sex lives and my own that put my thoughts and desires into perspective. Pixies, however, woke me up. The people that comprise our online family showed me that it's ok to be me. I'm sure they're regretting it by now, but it's too late...the cat's out of the bag.

I am comfortable taking pictures. I feel able to speak freely about my wants and needs, both online and with Mrs. WI. And I understand that just because things I'm interested in trying aren't part of mainstream sexual desires, doesn't mean they're weird.

Thank you all for bringing some clarity to my dirty little mind. ha ha

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All I can say is wow....Thank you for sharing a little bit of you with me.

I should have known that you were all naturally sexy....that it was an inner journey getting there....and that maybe Pixies helped out a little. And I must say that all of you have turned out wonderfully sexy. Even you, WildIrish.

IAKG ~ Your experience most closely mirrors mine. I was in love ~ and I wanted to make sure that he *loved* having sex with me. I wanted to become the best lover on the planet....and I've done LOTS of research to get where I am. I am sure I'm not the best, but a lady can dream.

Lil ~ Your expereince is closest to Mr. Osuche's. And I have seen him relax a bit, now that he is persuing his dream career. So maybe he is awakening just a bit.

Either way, I think sex is a good emotional barometer -- both a reflection of your internal mood, as well as your relationship with your partner.

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I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

i have never felt indifferent about sex or sexual pleasure, giving or receiveing. i've always been kinda hot under the jeans, if ya know what i mean. the discovery of orgasm was pretty early in life for me and once i tasted it i was hooked. even anal pleasure was an early discovery. i just plain like sex. i like the exploration that goes with it, and i love the pleasure i can give and the need i can create. pixies helps me get over my shyness about it discussing it. i used to just *do* things and listen or feel for those bodily responses that would tell me i was doing it right. but now it's a bit easier to communicate, to say it out loud... "like that?" or "can i?". who knew that such little questions could make sex even better. so i guess it's been more of a journey from shy sexuality to confident sensuality...and...i'm still on that road.
interesting question, osuche.

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I was pretty conservative in my high school ages and regret it.

The summer I graduated high school, a friend of my elder sister came to visit us from UK - Margareth. I took her to Cappodocia and we shared a tent. I had no sexual ideas when we went but she gave me a lesson of sex that changed all my thoughts about it.

But still, i was conservative from now here i speak.... until i met this Lebonese nypho girl whom i had a group sex with. That opened a new wide thing to me.

This is my 2nd marriage and my wife knows my interest although we have not tried yet. She was willing when we dated but seems not like so now and i dont want to be pushy..

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I've always had a zest for sex but late in my marriage health reasons caused a pretty severe crimp in my expressing it. I've had several partners since but emotional ties or lack thereof seemed to limit the length of exposure. The last couple of years has been a sexual nap... I'm hoping for another awakening soon.

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I'd have to say the '60s, you know make love, not war.

So I had to try both LOL


Much more fun to make love.

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I've always been interested in sex, but not even close to where I'm at now. In my younger years, I enjoyed it just fine, but was ok with having it just occasionally.... if at all.

Then I hit my 40's. I met up with a man who had been very dear to me decades earlier, and although I didn't engage with him, that was the moment that my true awakening began. Feelings, needs and desires surfaced that I wasn't even aware were within me. I'm very hands-on and love to love and be loved... but I can't do it without an emotional connection, it just wouldn't work for me. Thankfully I've got a strong emotional connection with a man who means the world to me. Now all he has to do is kiss me and I'm ready... poor baby

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