LOL...sits back and waits for the answer, with Souls.

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
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One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

Hmmmm... can't say I know of any solutions. All I can offer is... You're not alone. I'm overcome by said monster at times and I just breathe deep and try my hardest to keep cool.

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Put me on wheels and I'll turn tricks.

Clever? Nah, I ran out of that years ago. But if you find this, let me know, k?
"The road goes ever on..." ~ Tolkien

In memory of my friend skip...
Go then, there are other worlds than these

and Aqua

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
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One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

I guess I'll pull up a chair and wait here for answers as well

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-Toast-
"It takes a lot of brains to enjoy satire, humor and wit - but none to be offended by them." -- Johnny Hart ("BC", cartoonist, 2000)
"Analyzing humor is like dissecting a frog: Nobody really enjoys it and the frog generally dies as a result." -- E. B. White

I've kept cool but my face is easy to read. My gf just looks at my face and asks, "what are you thinking?" If I answer "nothing" you kinda know where the conversation goes from there. I don't like being jealous of her friends which are mostly guys. She says her friendship with them isn't like that and I'm not an insecure guy but you can't keep your head clear with logic all the time.

I don't want to be at some party have a few drinks and then be branded the asshole because I blew up at some innocent bit of flirtation that I would do and would usually never bat an eye at.

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Deep into that darkness peering,
long I stood there, wondering, fearing,
Doubting, dreaming dreams
no mortal ever dreamed before.

Well souls,………. You could kill something……………… but you’d just get to see the same green-eyed monster on Bubas’ face when Leroy took you for HIS own.

Maybe you’re dealing with two different CORE issue that just required time and a deep look to see. If after the pleasure of going through the feathers, you find it has webbed feet and quacks, perhaps be grateful for the feathers and move on until you find the Chick you are looking for.


*shruggs*

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souls-cry2000---The only person that you can really satisfy,is the person
that looks back from the mirror.If you always worry about the consequences,
you don't do anything & then people walk all over you.The last time(Aggravated Assault)that I was sentenced,to prison(3yrs&1day)everyone else
,in prison,had already been warned to leave me alone,by a person that had been there already.Was I scared?One word- YES!You have to decide,how
you want people,to remember you.Many will disagree,with me,but I had to
look in my mirror.Analise your situation & do what you think that you should!
Irish
P.S.Advice:Bubba doesn't want to be "rearranged" so he will,sensibly,leave you alone!

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Irish---Better to be dead & cool,then alive & uncool!
(Harley Davidson & the Marlboro Man)

I think that you have to be happy with yourself to make someone else happy. If you are truly happy in your relationship with your S/O, don't you think you make her happy too? Perhaps she is just as happy as you are. NEVER assume the worst -- she deserves more repect than that. Most likely these guys are just friends and no more.

Some women get along better with guys than girls....I am one of these....I just have not been able to find more than a couple of women who I can get along with. Women are complicated, and their relationships are complicated ~ you can sit down with a guy, drink a beer, shoot the shit, and just BE. Women are more intense.

It's unhealthy not to have friends...everyone needs friends outside of a relationship. Something for themselves ~ a sounding board, some free time, someone to relax with. Most likely these guys serve this purpose. If these frineds make your S/O happy....then they're good for your relationship. "Cause she can't make YOU happy if she isn't happy too.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

I left two big relationships because of jealousy & would do so again in a heartbeat.

For me, I feel like a possession of sorts if he's being possessive. I don't feel respected or trusted if someone is jealous for no reason.

If you've been hurt in the past, you can't let that cloud your feelings for your current love.

I have to agree with that.In my life,I always could talk to women,better then
men.It's almost funny,because the men that I got along,the worst with,turned
out to be my best friends.We didn't get along,initialy,because we were so much alike! Irish
P.S.The main thing, is knowing yourself & being happy with yourself!

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Irish---Better to be dead & cool,then alive & uncool!
(Harley Davidson & the Marlboro Man)

What is it with you and the duck analogies?

Some people are inherently jealous while others are not. I think the most important thing for jealous types to remember is their level of jealousy. I get defensive about some topics, and before completely losing my cool...I need to shut up for a minute and say to myself "you know how crazy this gets you...don't be irrational". Recognize that you are naturally jealous and step back & take a look at the situation. Is she flirting with them? Are they trying to subvert your relationship? Or is she just being her usual innocent flirty and fun self?

So bottom line...you can't get over it. You don't really need to. Just understand that it's a part of you and realize when it's causing you to act crazy. If she comments on your reaction to something just tell her "it's just me being jealous again...don't sweat it".

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

I think WI has got it about right...I'm not the jealous type myself, & I tend to think it's either a part of your makeup or not, so I guess it's really a question of how you deal with those feelings...

Sorry, I'm babbling coherently again...

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Plug me into somethin'

If the theory does not conform to the facts, then the facts must be discarded.

No good deed ever goes unpunished

Never argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level, & beat you with experience.

I too would love to know how to not be jealous. There is quite a large green-eyed-monster who lives in my skin. I know that I'm insecure, but I also know that being somewhat possessive (which is one of the roots of my jealousy) is part of me, just as much as being short is part of me.

It doesn't help that I've had legitimate causes to be jealous, either... in the past, I mean. I do know that this is a huge reason that I could never EVER seriously consider a threesome.

Yes, I too babble. I would love some real advice as to how not to be jealous. It's just that I've seen firsthand what "innocent flirting" can lead to. Personally, I don't really believe there is such a thing.

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Dear Lord, I pray for wisdom to understand my man, love to forgive him, and patience for his moods. Because Lord, if I pray for strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN


It's no trick loving somebody at their best. Love is loving them at their worst.
~Tom Stoppard~


It isn't premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.
~George Burns~


As bad as I am, I'm proud of the fact that I'm worse than I seem.
~A. DiFranco~

In my experience, jealousy comes from insecurity, or a lack of trust, or a combination of those. You need to decide why you feel you are not enough for her, why you think she'd be wanting someone else.

Has she earned your mistrust? Because jealousy is mistrust, and that's unkind towards her. If she has not earned your mistrust, then you need to CHOOSE to trust her. Work very hard on keeping your mind OFF of the "possibilities," use another focus. When you start to feel jealous, for example, deliberately change your mind to your favorite fantasy of you and your partner.

If it is earned mistrust, then you need to examine why you feel that she would repeate the behavior that created the mistrust.

But above all else, realize that you do not feel secure. Either in your own "charms" and ability to satisfy her, or in your relationship. THAT is the essence of what jealousy is. Knowing that, work hard to find a way to feel security with your relationship and with your self.