Hey guys, I love the board here. All these sexy ladies, mmm, mmm, mmm.

Anyway, so I kind of have a problem.

My new girlfriend and I were fooling around the other night, and she gave me head, and all I have to say about that is, I've never had a girlfriend who a) LOVES to give me head, b) deep-throats, c) swallows. (A mental note to girls out there: those three are a killer combination)

The next night, she came over here, and I fingered her to orgasm. She was shaking all over her body for like 5 minutes...it was amazingly intense...and I didn't do anything really... I mean, I did, but you know. She was amazed, because she has only had 1 other guy able to bring her to orgasm.

So here's where the problem comes in.

Two days ago, I started fingering her again. I thought I was working pretty hard at it, I even orally pleased her. Clitorial stimulation, oral stimulation, and I even focused on her g-spot for a bit. I think we were going at it for like 10-20 minutes, and she just couldn't orgasm. She told me that it wasn't me, which is comforting, but I feel bad especially because she does such an amazing job for me.

Is there something I could do to help bring her to orgasm? She said she had only brought herself to an orgasm once in her life, cause she set out to do it. Is this something that happens normally or what?

Probably better for the ladies to answer, but I know on occasion, it won't happen to my wife. In fact, there have even been times when it didn't happen to me. Stress, pre-occupation with something else, illness, or probably ten thousand other things can cause things not to go as hoped for (by either of you). I'd say unless this is a regular thing, don't worry too much about it ... worrying could make it worse. If it is regular and the two of you can't pinpoint the problem, maybe she'd want to discuss with her doctor to make sure there's nothing else to be considered.

Just my thoughts. Good luck.

And, welcome to Pixies. Hope you enjoy your time here. It's really a great place!

Exactly what db said! ^5!

Also...Welcum to Pixies hornyteen18! In asking this question, it shows you are mature beyond your years! Some guys your age wouldn't give a rats ass for her pleasure or lack of it! Cudos to you for asking all the right things and for your caring and concern. With that attitude.......I think you and your new girl will be just fine. Time and communication are on your side!

Oh....one more thing! Even though we all strive for the big "O" and all it's glory.........it's not a bad thing when, after a long encounter of foreplay and sex, it hasn't come (pardon the pun) about. There is always next time.......and that could be 5 minutes from now or 2 days from now! When we are young and first discovering what makes us tick (what brings us to orgasm)....the research can be just as good as the finale! Don't feel bad that she doesn't cum for you everytime......and don't give up communicating. Communication can be verbal or you can watch her to see what seems to be pleasurable and what just misses the mark!

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Here's where it gets difficult though:

She told me has only ever had one guy ever bring to her orgasm, well, now two. And also, she's only brought herself to orgasm once...because she set out to do it.

How's that for throwing a loop at you?

Sounds like you need a lesson in foreplay!!!!! nothing difficult to it.
Need A teacher??

And I do all the above.....A,b, and c......

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I think age might have something to do with it. It took me some time to actually masturbate and orgasm from it. I think I might have been in my mid-twenties. Just relax, sounds like you're both having fun. Keep experimenting.

The fun has to be in the journey, not just the destination . Llike DB and Lixy said, being worried about the finale is the worst thing you can do, and is most likely to mess you up. Stop keeping score of who got who off how often, and just enjoy the ride. It'll get there. And it should feel great in the meantime.

Have fun!

I agree with Ginger, just enjoy the journey, and don't feel bad. I remember it took me 1 and 1/2 years of great sex with my boyfriend before I came. I had been able to make myself orgasm since I was like 10, but I had to get to a point where I felt uninhibited enough relax around him. Sometimes it’s hard to share that private part of yourself, especially when you’re young. This is probably more about her and her comfort level. I would just continue to enjoy yourself, and continue to stay attentive to her, and it will happen.

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