Sending positive thoughts to you Lixy!!!! --- there's a quote by John Greenleaf Whittier ... goes something like this ... "of all the words of tongue or pen, the saddest these - it might have been." It's hard to have to say goodbye in any circumstances, but in something like this .... well know that that are many who care about you very much and are here for you when (or if) you need us!!

I am so sorry about your loss and my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I know this can be a difficult time for you all but I'm sure you can make it and best of luck with your eulogy. I know you haven't been too close in recent years but like Steph said.....think back to when you were younger and remember the good times. I'll be thinking of you and I know you can do it. Heres another HUG for you....I'm sure you need all you can get right now.

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Lixy, you have our thoughts and prayers. May God bless and strengthen you and your family. You have the love and caring of all of us here at Pixies. Anything we can do, just let us know.

<<<<LIXY>>>>


Please accept a HUGE hug from me and Celticangel... she keeps telling me even cyber-hugs make her feel better, so I hope it works with you, too!

We will keep you in our thoughts on April 26..... and I know, from your thread about your grampa, that the words will come out right!!

{P-O-W-E-R} >>>>>>>>> to Lixy.

Hope this transfusion of "Superhero" power helps you out!

DM

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Lix Hon, I'll add my heartfelt support, prayers and condolences here as well. I have no doubt you will do a wonderful job with the eulogy. Your eloquence, grace, charm and heart shine through the words I've seen from you here. May strength and serenity find your heart and carry you through. We'll all be here with you in spirit. Many HUGGGGGS

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(((Lixy))) Sending you strength and our prayers. Steph had the best advice, remember the good times, it helps in the rough moments

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Good luck m'lady, you have my thoughts and wishes....

methinks Steph said it best, find some memory of him that makes you smile, or captures the best of his essence. There is something good in everyone, just express his. Do it for you, and for his survivors left behind.


BORU

You guys are just so fantastic! Thank you so much for all the advice, well wishes, and prayers. I am overwhelmed! This is precisely why I finally opened up. I knew I could count on you, one and all!

Typically when a eulogy is read, one speaks of all the achievements and selfless acts of random kindness a lost loved one had performed during his/her lifetime. My brother had very few redeeming qualities. I'm not dissing my own brother, but speaking the truth. And I understand when you say to remember the good times.......as I am clinging to those with everything in me.

Yes, there were wonderful times. My brother could play a mean guitar. He taught me everything I know ( I should have practiced more) and he was the one who told me I had a serious singing voice. He loved my range and versatility and asked me to sing while he played nearly everytime we would hang out together. He had a wonderful sense of humor (when not clouded by drugs and alcohol) and we'd banter and laugh till I nearly pee'd my pants. And without ever having a fomal lesson, he could draw the most beautiful pictures of places he's seen, from memory, and when you looked at these scenes you'd think you were there at sometime in your life.

His very troubled adulthood was the hardest part to bypass or gloss over when writing about him. But I managed to take all the good and bad and (without lying or omission) pen a eulogy that I think is presentable. I'm going to sing Greenday's "Time of Your Life...Good Riddance" at the end of the eulogy. A friend of my brother's will play guitar just as I finish the reading and I hope I am not crying as I break into song. Just after the song, my nephew will stand, and in full Native American dress, perform a dance for the passing spirit.

When we finally get his ashes from San Mateo, we will take a trip to Ohio to the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame. All his life, Tommy had aspirations of "making it big". My brother would have never wanted to be buried, so I had an idea that I think the family likes. Without permission......as I figure I would meet with tons of resistance......I am going to sprinkle the ashes into potted plants in the museum. Now, the plants will either wither and die for some "unknown" reason or they will grow and exeed all expectation for some "unknown" reason....but I figure, either way it will be the plant caretaker who will be blamed or congratulated. I am hoping it's the latter. Whenever we speak of brother in the future, we can honestly say........"Oh yes! Tommy is in the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame"! I just know he is smiling at the notion!

*hugs to all*

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Breaking out of my lurking status to say Good luck Lixy. Hope it goes well, and you have my suuport and well wishes as well as those of everyone else on this site...

Excellent tribute Lixy! It just shows to go that even though we don't always like how some one behaves we can still cherish their spirit and love them for what they are not what we wished they would have been. Acceptance.

If ya start to feel weakened after the eulogy, right before you begin singing swallow hard, and imagine all our member's hands holding you, keeping you steady, and make a list of the ones who pinch your ass and I'll deal with them accordingly

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OK Lil. You might as well go ahead and do it now.

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Ditto what PF said.

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Clever? Nah, I ran out of that years ago. But if you find this, let me know, k?
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Go then, there are other worlds than these

Thats going to be a long list

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Lixy, you have my heart. I was once estranged from my family due to squabbling between my Mom and my Ex. 13 long years! I finally came to my senses and reconnected but it ultimately led to the separation from my Ex. I am fortunate I have had time to share with them and have come to terms with the importance. Bless you.

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I can't get through to her 'cause it doesn't permit
But I'm gonna give her everything I've got to give.

I hear your sweet voice calling
out my name
As I stare from a six foot cell
And from beyond I heard the words
Deceptively Yours

I promise....I'll do just that, Lilith! I know I'll need to .....and then, I now know, an unexplained smile will come across my face. Only myself, you guys here, and my brother will know why. *giggling at the pinches!*

TY so much everyone............I have more confidence everytime I read all the well wishes!

*Special note to Denny........*hugs* Hubby was estranged from his dad for eight (grueling) years and he finally tired of hearing me say...."Swallow your fuckin pride and just go to him and say, hey dad....where ya been"! Things have never been better for them! So sorry you had a loss......but just think of what you gained!


*still smiling, thinking of those pinches* Oh geezzzz. Now I won't be able to sing cause I'll be laughing! I am such an extremist! LOL!

*GROUP HUG*

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