my partner and I would like to have anal sex but neither of us has before. I've read up a little but I'd like to know a definitive guide to how to go about it the first time or whatever.
I'd also like to lick her ass but I'm not sure on this either. Should she wash?
input appreciated.

I enjoy anal sex immensely... First off be safe. Second use lube. Lots of it! I would recommend your girlfriend wash and be sure she is 'vacant' back there. You can use a lubed finger to gently investigate her backdoor. I like to give rim jobs and have yet to have a 'foul' experience. Timing and communication are the key ingredients there. Take cues from her on what she likes most... rimming the edge or forcing your tongue in deep. Play with her pussy and clit while you rim her ass. After a bit of tongue work, bring a finger into play, maybe two if she can take it. Keep her clit stimulated, but watch her for signs of over stimulation. Keeping her pussy happy when you first insert your cock in her ass will help keep her relaxed while it slides in. If she says stop, do so immediately and ask if she wants you to withdraw. You may want her to sit on top so she can control how fast it slides in. Experiment and find out what works best for the two of you, but put her comfort first and you'll find that you'll be pleasured as well. Good luck!!

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Hey dogmajay,

You want to take it very slow the first time you have anal sex. You want to have plenty of lube with you the first time. My suggestion is that you start by sticking your finger up her ass. Do this for a while, maybe 5-10 min. then keep adding a finger every 5-10 min. depending on the girth of your cock. After she feels very relaxed and you lube her ass and your cock up very good begin to stick the cock in. Do this inch by inch slowly until you have your entire cock inside her ass. Then slowly pump her and make sure you listen to her and don't hurt her too bad, because it is going to hurt her the first couple of times before she gets used to it.

Also tell her to rub her clit, and finger herself to offset some of the pain she might be feeling.

An alternate method would also be instead of using fingers, using different sized dildos, varying from small to about the size of your cock. And I don't condone this but it is also said that before you try anal sex the first time you should smoke a little of the wacky weed to relax yourself.

I hoped I helped you out man, and good luck to you and the lady!

ummmm yup....what the boys said

My other advice would be to not be surprised if you can not get it in on the first try......and once you do you may just wanna hold still and let her get accustomed to you being there before you move...better yet for the first couple (or 20) times you may let her move while you hold still, even in doggie......good luck have fun......

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I agree with what everyone else has said, but can tell you from experience to watch out for one more thing... My boyfriend used a ton of lube (for which i was immensely grateful) but the problem was that it slid in so WELL! He went a little too fast because the lube cut down on all the resistance, and that turned out to be quite painful. Luckily he held very still until I could get used to having him inside me and it turned out to be a great experience. Congrats on trying new things

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This could be just cause i enjoyed (and still do) it so, but when I was introducing anal play with my SO i was rimming, using my tongue for months and months before even getting into a finger or two. And like I said it may just because i enjoy it so I have still never used lube when having anal but I think we were all given a natural lube that I make sure has been properlly applied by my mouth first and have never had a problem.

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My husband and I have been having anal sex for about 2 1/2 years. I absolutely love it, and based on his moans I'd say he loves it too. I just recently found a great site that will probably answers a lot of yours and your girlfriends questions.
www.puckerup.com
It is full of great anal info and all other general sex info.
Best of luck on your anal endeavors