& is hard to do as the song says!

Looking for tips/hints/help on getting over someone.

As some of you know, I've been involved with a guy who was COMPLETELY wrong for me but it was hard to break ties with him.

It was over & I was over him but he came back into my life recently because he was sick (he's got HIV & it might be progressing into AIDS since he's not looking after himself). Because I love(d) him, I took him to the hospital & made sure he was OK but then realized I was falling in love with him again.

I digress!

I am interested in knowing how you got over someone. Also, have you guys dated someone who was 99% wrong for you but you really liked the 1% that was right?

LOL I'm not over him. You just move on...by necessity. for me the hard part was that despite everything, I knew that with that 1% he could give...he loved me. But I can't live waiting for every hundreth minute, or hundreth hour, or hundreth year.

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(((Steph))) Been there a few times myself. I have a couple I haven't totally gotten over either. I don't think you ever do. Only way I cope with it is go find another one.
He's just another chapter in your life now.
Life's too short girlfriend...... Be happy.

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Been doing nearly the same thing here,the past few weeks.Known this woman most of my life.First time I got over her,lol,well,she got married to some guy I knew..About 15 years ago,this guy falls over while he's jogging with a heart attack..I go to the funeral..We get talking again,lol,a few months later we're off and running again.She's hung up on marriage,and putting her grand kids through school..I see her point,but been there,and done that,so we split up,again..Few weeks ago,we're at the same party,lol,away we go!!.Yesterday,she starts the "wouldn't it be nice to get married",thing again..I explain that I've put 5 kids through school already,and won't do it again..I'm retired,and want to have fun myself,now..Might be selfish..But then I guess that's what I am..Only way to get over them,is to hang tough with my friends,then just go out and meet people casually.Bad for the sex life,but ok in other ways,lol..REAL friends will get you through..
Good luck though Steph,
Time,and Good Friends,heal all wounds

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advice on how to speed things up? lol girl If I knew taht I'd be using it right now

seriously though i'm going though the same thing myself right now getting out of antoher long term relationship, and guess what it hurts just as much as it did the first one that ended up ending, though I suppose this time I was a bit more braced for it to happen

but I'm tellin ya now theres no magic cure or way to speed things up, it's all a matter of time, which makes it a painful annoying long process that even after the longest times if the night's right and the mood hits you you'll still feel the pain of loss.

There's only one way to "speed it up" and thats to cut all ties to the person and not talk speak see or write them. and while it doens't speed it up, it certainly cuts back on relaps , though in a lot of situations, this isn't possible/ isn't something you even wanna due, parituclary if the relationship ended and you wanted to stay together

other than that, good luck is all I can say, naturally if ya need to rant ya can always get ahold of me

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Steph Darlin my heart's with Ya. My best advice for helping things along is to get busy. Find a hobby, join a civic group, or hell take some classes. The thing is, you tie your mind to something besides a relationship. I'm blessed in that I have two kids I can concentrate on. They've been my saving grace when my heart was dunked in the muck. Photography would be a nice hobby for you. I know all us Pixie guys would love to see more pics of you. Of course PF will deny it. LOL

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Steph, sorry to hear about your situation. About the only thing I can tell you is that the key to resolving most issues - heart or mind - lies in staying busy and focusing on other things. The old occupy your mind and don't leave the time to think about 'it'. Sorry I'm not more in sightful. Life is hard.

LOL..Thx PF..Even though it means breaking up a set,looks like that's what I'll do.Won't be using that tool,or another one,for a while,lol..

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I met a great guy today. I'm not one to hop from guy to guy but in this case, a normal guy might be a good cure.

In terms of getting over someone, I did allow myself to listen to mushy music (I sang "Missing You" by John Waite more than once walking the horse/moose/dog) & will do something cool & sassy & sexy with my hair & have been wearing my sandals with higher heels. He was three inches shorter than me and I know why Nicole Kidman made the cracks she did when her and Crazy Cruise broke up.

Thanks for your anecdotes & encouragement everyone (except PF)!

Honestly, the biggest problem was getting over the fact that he's not taking care of himself when he's got a serious disease but I did what I could.

To new beginnings!

WTG Steph....

WTF Steph....

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ROFL I'm going to assume that's a typo!

LOL @ PF

Time helps some but you never really get over someone that burns into your soul.

There are two special women with whom I was intimate at one point in my life...to this day I really haven't been able to clense them out of my mind.

I suspect I never will....not completely anyway.

*sigh*


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