Okay, so I could use some advice here. I simply love it when my wife starts with penetration and then finishes with oral. But I have trouble doing the same (i.e. after I finish - so to speak - in her, then giving her oral). I like the concept when I've not cum, but after I cum in her, I lose total interest in giving her oral.

I am sure the answer is to just make a better effort, but outside of that..anyone have any ideas for me?

No guy has ever done that to me, Jax, but I think if ever they did, they'd soon realise that the reward would be worth the effort.

I suggest these two things might help keep you focused even after you've cum:

1) Remember that a woman's orgasm is scientifically proven to be more intense than a man's....meaning that we probably feel even more drained than you do after our orgasms, but we are still expected to continue with sex, give oral or whatever until the guy cums. Given the choice, I know, I would far prefer to cum second, but I also know that in the majority of cases if I don't cum before the guy does, then I don't cum at all, since most guys lose interest, as you describe. My point is that if she's prepared to make the effort, then you must too, on occasions.

2) And this is the biggie.....I think you'd find that after the first time you go down on your woman after penetration, and she nearly hits the ceiling with pleasure, you'll get such a kick out of her reaction that you'll find the energy to continue through the 'wall' that hits you after orgasm. I imagine that once you've experienced that for the first time, the experience will motivate you to try it again next time.

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I've done that and LOVE IT! and have also had it returned to me.....which is so fuckin' hot!

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I know how much my boyfriend loves it when I swallow him down after a good screwing, the taste of myself doesn't bother me in the least too, so it usually brings me to another orgasim to have penetration, then oral... in reverse though, once my boyfriend has cum inside me, he's doesn't like to go down on me. Which is fine, he's great with his fingers. :devilish:

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OH.. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

"You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct
way, and the only way, it does not exist." ~Friedrich Nietzsche

I love it when I get blown during the middle of sex. I also dont mind kissing her after she's gone down on me, and vise-versa. However I never have gone down on her after i've cum in her...well b/c i havent cum in my g/f yet w/o a condom. (but I still go down on her after I finish when we use condoms)...did that make any sense?... haha

The first time I did it, I just did it. The idea of it didn't really bother me much at all, and though she'd never really put much thought into it...she climaxed like crazy. I used to concentrate more of my efforts on her clitoris after cumming inside of her, but now...well, .

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Still one of my favorites.

Me too...and I check a lot just to make sure. ha ha

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

After the main course,I love a little soixante neuf for dessert.

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Sex is one of nine reasons for reincarnation.The other eight are unimportant...Henry Miller