I WANT..........
A lover not a fighter
someone who feels confident and not insecure
who isn't jealous
who doesn't fart in bed
gives compliments instead of degrading statements
isn't afraid I'll dress them funny when we go shopping in a mens clothing store
A daddy for my daughter who's willing to teach her things.
who doesn't hate my animals cause you'll go before they do!
who isn't afraid to put in a days work on the farm
love me for who I am and not try to stop me from posting on pixies cause I ain't goin nowhere!
willing to try new things with me in bed
will give me my "me" time when I need it
is able to carry on a conversation with me
isn't afraid to say I'm sorry when they are wrong
Treat me like a lady that I am ( I'm just a naughty lady) LOL
Make me proud to be with them in public
Dance with me!
That can ride a damn horse for christs sake!

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Okay.. this is the complete list.. as of this moment.. a few more hours til my deadline.. so I might still improve on it.. but.. here goes.. input welcome..

• Sensitive: Wears his heart on his sleeve, but controls them when he should.
• Sense of Humor: Enjoys laughter and makes me laugh.
• Strong Work Ethic: Gainfully employed.
• Conservative thinker: Moderate Republican (but doesn’t stick to party lines)
• Broad Shoulders: Both emotionally and figuratively
• Stocky: Not overly tall, certainly not overly thin.
• Bald (or full head of hair), no thinning. Like extremes.
• Best Friend: Someone I can share all aspects of myself, without fear of rejection.
• Sexually adventurous: Isn’t afraid to try new things.
• Intelligent: Can hold an intelligent conversation on a whole range of subjects.
• Strong Laugh: A laugh that starts from within, not surface or fake.
• Calm (but not boring): Remains calm under pressure. Handles stress well.
• Considerate: Thinks of others feelings.
• Non-Smoker: Can’t handle that smell on his body.
• Mischievous Twinkle in his eyes: Can’t explain this one.. it is just there.
• Cuddles: Enjoys cuddling
• Non-Controlling: Will not control me, but will offer his suggestions.
• Kind: Gentle heart
• Attentive: Pays attention to my needs
• Romantic: Appreciates romance and is at least willing to make the effort.
• Realistic: Not overly optimistic.. but not pessimistic either..
• Forgiving: Is accepting of my faults and loves me anyway.
• Tolerant: Doesn’t irritate easily.
• Expressive: Shows his emotions, and isn’t afraid of public displays of affection.
• Strong Hands: To hold mine, to keep me grounded.
• Protective: Will protect me (and us) against whatever he can.
• Understanding: Is willing to listen and accept new ideas.
• Honest: Believes that honesty is a key to a successful relationship.
• Rugged: Is more comfortable in blue jeans than in slacks.
• Positive: Always sees the brighter side to everything.
• Thoughtful: Realizes the importance of “little things”.
• Down to Earth: Does not believe he is better than anyone else.
• Approachable: Does not put an emotional wall up.
• Stimulating: Both intellectually and sexually.
• Insatiable: Always wants more (especially me)
• Strong: Not just physically, but emotionally as well.
• Truthful: Believes that the truth matters.
• Sincere: Never phony or fake.
• Passionate: About the things that he loves.
• Tender: A teddy bear at heart.
• Sensible: Level headed
• Communicative: Is willing to talk things over and not sandbag his emotions and thoughts. If he is unhappy or wants more.. is willing to express that.
• Friendly: Greets everyone with smiles… eager to make new friends.
• Sociable: Enjoys moments with friends (both new and old)
• Stable: both economically and emotionally
• Reliable: Will do what he says he will… will be where he says he will be..
• Fun: Enjoys having a good time with those that are around him.
• Exciting: Always looking for new ways to spice up life.
• Faithful: Wants only me
• Integrity: Doesn’t go against the things that he believes in.
• Confident: But not cocky.
• Spontaneous: Doesn’t always stick to a schedule
• Makes time for me.
• Embraces my son, my family, and my friends.
• Understands the stressful aspects of my job.
• Enjoys weekends away
• Likes the outdoors
• Will share an evening home, watching videos as we cuddle on the couch.
• Likes Surprises (both giving and receiving).
• Patient: Both in and out of bed.
• Likes his own space.
• Stays in touch with old friends.

If I had created such a list, and expected my future partner to have had many of the 'basic' qualities ticked off (a job, a driving license, likes lots of different foods, seriously big on travelling, doesn't live at home with parents etc etc) then I would never have got together with Fussy.

When I first met him in real life, I told him that we were totally unsuitable for each other, since all of the above things were important to me in finding a partner (as well as all the emotional and 'deeper' things). If he'd been applying for a job as 'my boyfriend' he wouldn't even have got to the interview stage.

However, I liked Fussy inspite of myself, and fell in love with him for who he is.....he is my soul mate and that's what's important.

I would strongly advise anyone against creating a wish list for the person they want in their lives, and instead, would urge people to create a wishlist for the type of person they want to be. If you are the best person you can be, you'll attract the best people you could possibly wish for.

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Everyone has a wish list. It may not be one that is on paper to read everyday, but somewhere in the recesses of our minds there is a list. There has to be. We all want to meet someone who is compatible with our ethics, morals and beliefs. We all want someone who is a positive addition to our life, not a hinderence.Someone who makes us happy and visa versa. There is always a wish list

As far as being the best person you can be. I think most people try to be the best they can be, but that doesn't guarantee anything. I wish it were as simple as that....

How many of us have met people that we think are wonderful only to find out that they aren't? Everyone I bet, and the reason we tend to dismiss them from our inner circle is because they do not live up to what we, for lack of a better word, have on our "list".

You know, I tend to be pretty damn picky when it comes to men. I have a tendency to be friends with men I would date....maybe not marry, but date....and if they don't meet that criteria then they are not in my inner circle of friends. Sounds kinda mean, but I find that the first criteria for dating is that the person be my friend, so the converse is also true.

Lou ~ my guess is that you maybe hadn't made the right list. There are some shallow things that are just "window dressing" (like having a driver's license), but the really important things DO matter. My guess is that Fussy met all the "non-negotiables."

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Some people also believe that you can't attract what you want unless you know what that is. And that sometimes you miss out on someone having many of those attributes because you were not aware that they were high on the priority list. It can also help people who consistently make bad choices in partners ( my mom) to look at what they want in a partner vs. what they have chosen in the past. Then they can reflect on why they make those choices. Repeatedly, consistently, over and over and over

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Jenna,

Don't forget "employed"

She has Working on the list BiBi.

Jenna, are you using this list for your project? To my mind some of the things cancel each other out.

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Jenn,

It would be nice if you could add some weightings to each of the criteria, both for your study and us. Also, your list leans towards female wishes...perhaps that's why I don't see 'Thunder Thighs' !!



(Just thought of a great idea for a new thread...)


Jaybee.

[QUOTE=Catch22]She has Working on the list BiBi[QUOTE]

Well spank me silly!!!

I made a boo boo!

.....and so did you! lol

[QUOTE=BIBI][QUOTE=Catch22]She has Working on the list BiBi

Does that mean we get a picnic basket for being booboo?

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Thanks for the great responses...

Lou.. making a "wish list" about yourself... characteristics that I need to further develop within myself is a fantastic idea... and I will begin working on such a list.. I think it will work well within this weeks assignment actually.. so I thank you..

BIBI... ROFL.. believe me.. employed is a "non-negotiable". I have never found myself remotely attracted to anyone who is unable (unwilling) to work. I grew up in a home where a work ethic was pounded in early.

osuche.. I read your post.. and could completely relate.. I have several very close male friends.. that I would certainly date.. but alas.. I am the only single one in my crowd..

Lilith.. that is almost exactly what I was told.. as to why the assignment was given to me... did you copy that out of a text book? LOL.. I am NOT a text book case... LOLOLOL.. far from it.

Catch22.. this is part of an ongoing project... ME... I have begun trying to deal with my issues with a professional.. in an attempt to rid myself of excess (unattractive) baggage.. this is just the beginning.. of a long road.

Jaybee.. Thunder thighs.. don't my kind of thing.. LOL.. but I am thankful they are yours

Hugs.. and sooo much thanks..

When I was young I made a list -- it would have been impossible for anyone to meet all the criteria, because somethings absolutely cancelled each other out (that was when I was very young!)

When I was in my late 20's I made another list, not really written down, but still it was a list I made and have carried it in my head ever since .... but having never written it down, I found it very difficult to sit down and do so .... strange how our minds work isn't it ....

Strong - emotionally, spiritually, mentally, personally ... and physically wouldn't be bad either.

Caring - about me, about my inner circle, about things that really matter (in my opinion)

Integrity (I think this really goes with the Strong, but it's very important to me)

That certain spark that kind of just sets my teeth (and various other parts) (and his as well) all atingle.

Beyond that, for me, just about everything else is negotiable.

LILITH..........you just told my life story.
Maybe I'll get it right this time.

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