Sorry i've not been on very much at all, even less than i was before *sigh*

My youngest son is going to put me in an early grave, the last few weeks i have been living each day stressed, severely pissed, worried, bawling my eyes out, angry, sad, sobbing and many others inbetween and well i feel like i'm living in an emotional wringer! Though this has been going on for longer, but it has got worse lately....

I'm about at my limit today, i feel like a powder keg with a match a few millimeters away.

I do not know what else to do with this kid of mine, i love him with all my heart but at this time i really dont like him very much, if that makes sense.

The open disregard and defiance he is dishing out.....shit i dunno...i cant even put it into words...

Sorry guys, i needed to vent, hasnt helped a great deal, but even a bit is better than nothing. My mind is in turmoil.....i needed a shoulder is all

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If you can't vent here, I don't know where else you could go. Vent away. I wish I knew what to tell you, but I'm not a parent and haven't dealt with the teen thing before. (Other than my being a teen not so long ago.)

Mom's, Dad's....Any advice for our vampire obsessed friend?

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Teenagers are total assholes so we won't miss them as bad when they finally leave.

One day he will be grown. One day he will be grown. One day he will be grown. One day he will be grown. One day he will be grown. One day he will be grown. - Just keep saying it til it's true ((((hugs)))) Every time I try to hold mine accountable I'm told what a shitty life I've given him. Ungrateful beasts.

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Fangtasia,

Although I have lived through the antagonistic antics of two teenagers, it sounds as if you’re catching it worse than I ever did. It seems as if he is to the point where you may want to consider getting outside help, before he gets himself in serious trouble.

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Thanx guys *hugz*

I've tried outside help, i've tried just about everything i can think of. He just doesnt give a shit for anyone but himself. The police were involved the other day, they cant help either until he does something criminal, ffs i DONT want him to get to that, but sadly that is were it is heading.

Can't belt his arse, cause god forbid the do gooders would have me in court. From the police, if he chooses to leave home (at 14 mind you, fucking 14!!), there is nothing we can do.

When he turns into real trouble, those same do gooders will be the ones that will blame the parenting, yeah great.

My son is breaking my heart, and i have sat and talked with him about this shit, and he couldnt care less, its killing me

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Is there another reason why this is hitting you so hard?

This sounds like Mrs OF at peri-menopause, when your body is practicing to be a pain.

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Is he seeing a counselor? If I remember right he has some challenges that make the teen years even more treacherous. Is he on meds? You can PM me if you don't want to spew it all here

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That actually makes all kinds of sense. Been dealing with #1, with ADHD, AS, petit mal epilepsy, & whatever else they can pull out of the book, & he's 26 now; still not worth the powder it would take to blow him away (I know, that sounds awful coming from a dad), the only consolation mrs zoid & I take away is that he's not quite as F'd up as his live-in GF (he at least has some self-awareness, if not the ability to self-improve).

Continue to vent, & share as much as you can stand right here. If we can't help, at least we're pretty much all sympathetic ears...

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Lil and Rhiannon, thank you both for your concern. My daughter has just started taking Lexapro daily and Ativan as needed. She is starting thearpy where they have a 12-step program to help kids deal with panic disorder. It's been a shock to see this emerge in her, but we are hopeful that we can get a grip on it and she can get the help she needs to get on with her life.

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Fang

I too can sympathize my daughter was diagnosed with ADD she's 25 now but even though she had help I can't help but feel I failed her for not doing more now my son who is 19 is studying at BU for theoretical Physics he's doing fine but ask him to build a square box good luck .... my daughter however can just my PM me with any further concerns though I think that Lil ,Tess and all gave you pretty good advice


Mike

Thanx for the advice and, even for just listening *hugz all*

I've made an appointment with another school (flexi schooling), i dunno if that will make much difference though. But gawd i hope so.

He says he is going to school, but i bloodywell know he isnt, i ring or drop into the school to check. He rang me earlier today say he was going, he was to be home sick as he had a temperature and looked not well. My bullshit meter went on high alert, so i dropped by the school on my way home, guess who, AGAIN, wasnt at school, caught the bus in, arrived at school, but then took off. So my son is wandering the city around fuck knows where, with fuck knows who, doing fuck knows what!!

And all this after we had a good chat and he promised me he would go to school, and he would try not to worry me anymore. Pffttt, shows how much he cares for me or anyone else.

His lies are out of control, his attitude is the freaking pits, and i'm at a loss at what to do to turn him around to be honest.

Anyway i'll tackle the school thing first.

I have a number for a councilor, i'm hoping to be able to drop in to the office tomorrow to find out more about that.

Not gonna do much good though if he doesnt want to help himself *sigh*

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Does the young one have a reason for avoiding school, bullying by peers or teachers or such?

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