Ahem.

I know a lot of you & we talk.

I was trying out a new relationship but he STILL didn't understand Pixies so I've given up. There were other things (layaboutness, etc.) but I know I have to toss him tho' he can be loving.

I've talked to Pixies about him & I've just realized most of the Pixies to whom I talk are in long-term relationships.

Lil has mentioned admiring women like me & osuche (who has since settled down) . . . We're out & about, trying different men on for size but those who are in solid relationships don't like the same things in their men for which I'm breaking up with mine.

It's hard to explain.

I don't commit because of a big red X that I don't feel I can get over.

People who have been in relationships a long time say the big X makes them stronger.

*shrug*

I guess I'm looking for what brings us together.

us pixies? or us people? or us as in a couple?

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(((((((Steph)))))))

You have to trust your guts on this one...... just one bruise doesn't make the whole apple unacceptable! I'm kinda glad to not be trying to build a new relationship..... Mrs Coaster & I have grown accustom to each others quirks and after all these years have stopped trying to change the one we love. Good luck sweetie......... you deserve it!

Oh BTW, I'd like to see your big red X sometime!!!

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Is the love I gave her in the past, gonna be enough to last, if tomorrow never comes........

(((((Steph)))))

I think it's a matter of finding someone with flaws that are acceptable to you. Everyone has issues, but you may be more forgiving of some issues than others. Find someone who has flaws that you're willing to live with, and one or two other characteristics you really admire.

I think the admiration is important -- I find it impossible to be with someone I can't admire.

As for your big red X -- the only advice I can give is to love yourself, flaws and all. Makes it so much easier for someone else to love you. I have *many* issues -- some of them you know and yet I've come to like myself...warts and all.

Last piece of advice....get outta dodge for a while and find some new haunts. When I moved ot SF -- happily married -- I found 2 men within about the past 9 months who I could have happily shared my life with. I'm still happily married, but I do think that a change of venue helped me find some new people I really care about.

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I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

But from what I gather, your libido is much higher than his & you allowed that . . . I'm not looking for perfect but I'm looking.

As someone who is climbing the walls because she hasn't had sex in 2.5 weeks...we *do* have different libidos.

But I trust him, and I admire him (I think there's a thread somewhere where I rave about his good qualities so I won't bug you with them). Plus, I figured out it really was *him* and not any issues he had with ME that was causing his lack of sex drive...

Plus, I have Pixies to compensate, a little.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

(((((((((((Coaster)))))))))) You're one of the ones I rambled about when I started this thread. Married man, flirting with other marrieds . . . I have no problem with that . . . I admire you that . . .

I guess a lot of you have been with people a long time. I now have to judge my new guys on being "Pixies worthy". ")

Pixie couples have had tumultous times they could share . . .