we talked about it and all... him and his friend were watching porn and were really horny so they were "experimenting" which i dont see anything wrong with so i really dont understand why i was such a bitch about it.
the reason he told me is because we are extremely open with each other. we dont really hold ANYTHING back. and when i had asked him if he had ever thought about doing it with another guy before, thats when he told me. And i had told him several times before that, that the thought of him with another guy was a very arousing thought.
Its STILL an arousing thought to think of him with any other guy except a guy he actually knows, which i really dont understand.
but anyways, thank you guys for your imput. it helped. now to try working this one out.
*sigh* i hate being a bitch like this. it makes me feel like shit afterwards. NO MI GUSTA!
Well maybe talk to him some more about it and ask him to show you. Don't get jealous or whatever just coz he is enjoying it with a guy. People freak out when they see their SO's getting off from somebody else. If you still have anxieties about it then let him know that this is something that you will need time to adjust to. Only you will know how long that will be.
In the past, girlfriends have revealed to me secrets about their sexual past which really did mess me up in ways very similar to those that you describe. I get a lot of jealousy about past lovers sometimes, which is quite frankly ridiculous -and I know it. It's a symptom of my love and protectiveness of my girl -overprotectiveness, perhaps. But once you know this, you can keep your behaviour in check and not let it become a deep rift, but rather a bond.
In time, the feelings will pass and all that will remain is the closeness afforded by sharing a personal secret.
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