There are priggish souls everywhere and it is their choice to be offended or shocked about something I may say, just as it is my choice to say it. I tend not to socialize with such but if I do offend one of them I just tell them, that I am who I am, that I do not act this way to be insulting to them and if they don't like me because of it then it might be best to move on(tactfully of course lol). It is my sense of openess and humor and they have theirs which I too avoid if there isnt a comfort level for all parties. I remember as a young mom hating all the talk of kids and diapers at a social event...it was sooo boring to me. I lived it everyday and wanted away from it when I went out. Yet I lived through it all anyway.....
I don't try to shock people or offend their sensibilities and I do tread a bit more carefully in new situations at the start but I will be damned if I am going to pretend to be someone I am not just to satisfy the few that may not appreciate my approach and my humor. They can walk away and talk about me amongst themselves...that way they are leaving others alone!
I cannot imagine how uptight I would be if I changed my ways to suit others in social settings with friends. No fun that's for sure! Further more if it was expected of me to change I wouldn't look at my friends as true ones. Not to say that I couldn't hold myself in place if a granny was in attendance but even some of the older women love a little sexual innuendo chat...my granny sure did.
Sure there are times that are not the appropriate venue for such talk and that is left to the common sense and the use of tact of the indiviual.....hopefully they have some! lol
I really think that this subject holds too wide an arena to put forth a pat answer to the original posting. To thine own self be true. If you say something that in the end makes you feel uncomfortable, then it is safe to assume it was not the best time or place or person to say it to. Time teaches all who we can talk to and what we can talk about......but don't go changing your ways to appease a few. You have to live in your own skin, not theirs!
PS.....I was wondering if you maybe meant to say you are assertive rather than aggressive. There is a big difference between the two. I personally took it you meant the former.
Hybrid Mode
