Okay, here's the whole story.

There's this guy. Let's call him.. George. George and I have known each other for 10 years, since the 8th grade. In high school, we were very close, we were like brother and sister. We used to hang out, despite the fact that we were in completely different cliques, and he used to stand up for me against the stupid people who decided to call me fat, a brainyac, etc. George was a sweetheart in high school. He was stupid, took drugs, and drank, but he was sweet. When I had a stalker at the age of 15, George protected me. He even took a few beatings for protecting me, but he did it.

Right after we graduated (should mention, we went to Catholic school), George told me that he'd been fantasizing about me sexually since the 10th grade. I was like "why?". He told me it was because he figured that under that Catholic exterior, I was a tiger just waiting to pounce. As I started to be sexually active with other people, George got more insistent that he wanted a piece. He never wanted a RELATIONSHIP, just a fuck. I always said no, because it was GEORGE.. like, it would have felt like incest, we were just so close in high school.

Anyway, 6-8 months ago, we talked for the last time. He asked again, and I said no. I'm in a happy relationship, and I wasn't going to fuck it up for just a lay. He then asked me to keep things to myself, because he didn't want his friends (from high school) to find out. I asked why, and he said "well, you're the fat, dorky chick from high school that nobody wanted... and I have a reputatioin to protect". I told him to fuck off, and then put him on ignore, and blocked as much of his emails, pms, etc, as I could.

Fast-forward to two weeks ago. Two weeks ago, I get a PM on another site that I post at. I hadn't told him that I belonged to that site, and here, he'd found me. His PM asked if I was mad at him, and why I hadn't contacted him. (He never was that smart). I cold-listed him and ignored the PM, and then in the next couple days, he formed 4 or 5 new identities to PM me with. Each of those, I blocked, as well. Today, I logged into ANOTHER site that I use, which he knew I posted at, but had never known my name there.. and found a PM in my box from him.

He's getting creepy. Because we were friends, he knows my phone number, he knows where I live, and he knows a great amount of the details of my life. None of his emails have been threatening, just irritating... what the fuck should I do?

You're doing the right thing! Just keep cool and keep it up.

What a jerk...oh yeah, talk down to me, that'll get me to fuck you anytime!

GEEZ PEOPLE ARE SO STUPID

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~Tainted Love~

I KNOW! I was like.. uh.. I'm the fat, dorky chick that no one wanted... yup, that'll get you in my pants. Mmmhmm. Yup.

Fuck, he's stupid. But he's getting really intrusive.

*sigh*

Honey. Right NOW, you go find one of those PMs, and you DOCUMENT it, and you reply with this statement:

The next time that you contact me, I will contact the police. I do not wish any futher contact from you, of any kind. I consider your behavior to be harassment. I do nto want to speak further with you, I do not want to explain, I do not want to be friends. I wish for you to NEVER contact me again. If you do, I will consider it a threat and contact the police.

This is nothing to fool with, and nothing but a direct, blunt, ABSOLUTELY DEFINITE AND FINISHING STATEMENT is good enough. I mean it, rapes are done by people that the woman knows. Put a stop to it now, I cannot stress that enough. TELL YOUR PARTNER. Be sure your partner knows this guy is out there and stalking you. Be sure he knows that a stalker will do or say anything to destroy your life.

And I cannot say it with enough conviction, or with enough force, or enough emphasis. WARN HIM to back off, TELL THE POLICE, and if he contacts you again, GET A RESTRAINING ORDER. Accept that he has crossed the line, the friendship is gone, and he is now like any other criminal. Take that into your mind, and embrace it. HE dropped the ball here. You are worth taking good care of, so go take care of yourself. This is serious stuff, ex friend or total stranger, creepiness is creepiness.

If you feel alarmed now, good. If you don't, you should. Take this serious, it is.

Well put, Sweetlady, and I think very good advice.

Sweetlady, both of my rapes were by people I knew.

I've sent him the message you suggested. I know that this is going to explode into something really disgusting. He's got a lot of my pictures that I've posted online saved, and I just know it's going to get ugly.

*sigh*