Also, according to the Iowa law....
A parent can press charges against the man or woman (over the age of 18 - and lets be fair, there are women who do this as well) who associates themselves with a minor (under 18). In other words, if you just kissed this girl in Iowa and the parents didn't agree with the relationship, you could face charges of sexual assault and child molestation, even if the girl was agreeable to it.

So, what I am trying to say is this. Not only could you possibly get your feelings hurt by a fickle 14 year old (almost 15 - which tells me you all are too young if you are looking forward to the following year.. like I am 14 and 1/2) but you could also face criminal charges against you in certain states. So, I would hazard to wonder... is it worth it???

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I hope that Sexual Spree would add more to this topic.

The advice is not what he wanted to hear I expect, but he has been given the best advice.

No one here looks down upon you mate, we just want you to not make a mistake that could cost you dearly.

Pixies is not a place where sexual lawlessness is condoned but is a place where you can be sexual without condemnation. The people i know here are all very decent people who are good citizens.

Welcum to Pixies SexualSpree! NOw sit back and read all of this......since you asked! *hugs*

I agree with you GG.......I don't think this is what he WANTED to hear! Otherwise he'd have been back by now to thank us for "giving him permission" to feel good about what he seems to think is wrong (that is, if we had all collectively said.......Do it hun......Do what you want!).

Frankly, I've never entered a debate or discussion without at least trying to see the other side of things (call me your typical devil's advocate).....so here's my 2 cents!

I was 14 when I lost my virginity! Pretty scary thought, huh? I know....SexualSpree says he has NO intentions of taking his S/O's virginity......but if he were truthful......he'd have said he wants her and he wants her bad!

Well, in my personal situation, I was an extremely mature 14y/o....(I can hear all you parents out there mumbling.....yeah, yeah....they all think that!) because of certain situations in my life that made me "grow up" and face the world far sooner than most teens should (caring for a family that a father had given up on and a mother who had mental breakdowns). I was so much wiser in the ways of "life" than most of my friends........and yet I seemed to cling to the feeling of wanting to "get away from it all".

OK....I'll admit it.....I didn't know jack shit about sex when I was 14......but I wanted to experience every part of life.......and I was damn head strong to give it a go! In my personal situation, I didn't know from one day to the next if I'd be alive to see the next day (long, long story...I might share someday)! I'm a very practical person at heart and so I took the leap at this very early age (figuring I ain't dying a virgin).........and to be honest I don't regret it but I don't recommend it either!

In retrospect, I could have waited........but hindsight seems to be my forte......not insight! If everyone of you would be honest here.......at the raw age of 14, your sexual awareness was climbing out of your shorts!

Here's the bottom line SexualSpree........

In the moral sense..........it's wrong. In the grand scheme of things........it isn't one of the worst things that has ever happened on this planet! If you feel bad about it.......keep a nice friend and find someone your own age (or at least of legal age). If you can sleep at night without worry and you aren't hurting anyone (ie:her, her parents....etc) and you truly can hold out for her till she is ready........than go for it! Life is short and who the fuck are we to judge!

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I agree with all above. My daughter is almost 15 and if she chooses to have male friends of her own age group fine~~~~but since she is still a child there is no way that I would let her be "involved" with an "adult"~~~~~~~at this age the gap is wider than the expance of space!
If you love some~one let them go~~~~~~~~~if it's ment to be ~~~~~they'll be waiting!

Goodluck in your search for love!

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SexualSpree~I didn't read what every1 else wrote, but, I"m 19 (almost, March 1) and i remember being like 15 and my bf was 20!
I didn;'t tell my parents, but i didn't let my man get that far with me, i would of... but he was to old...
U should wait for a few years, and try to just be friends until she gets to legal age.
She IS a little bit younger than u... try some girls around u... not all 18yo r that bad ~_~ Ur still young, don't go with someone that can't evan see rated R movies yet. Not that matters...

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Uh what about a (Just last week) 19 year old going out with a 16 year old who's almost 17??

when i was 13, my mum and dad let me go out with this guy who was 21. I am saying it wasn't wrong, but not right. Yes i did sleep with this guy and he was my first. i don't regret it but i still hold a torch for him.