I have been asking around my UK and European liberal open-minded friends today about this question. Whilst we all know people who have tried an open marriage, we don't know any that have lasted as a result.

I don't mean open relationships, these do not require the taking of vows to bind the committment. I have no problem if you want to renegotiate your vows/committment but in a way this would seem to me like the original marriage is over and a new one has started. Same relationship maybe, but a different marriage.

On another issue, I support gay marriage, precisely because children aren't the only or best reason for marriage, but because people are willing to make vows on their committment to each other.

People happily took the "obey" out of the vows - just ask the vicar or state official to take out the bit about honouring with your body and being faithful.

On a lighter note, I actually got married in a foreign language and didn't understand a word - so personnally I have no idea what I committed to.

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