OK, quick background. The wife (11+ years) and I were at a going away party for a friend. It was a family party, with 5 or so couples + kids, as well as 4-5 singles.

The booze quickly started flowing, and since my wife watches our son all the time I let her drink, while I stayed sober to take care of our son. No biggie.

Five or six shots of tequila later, the wife is pretty well hammered, as well as 4 or 5 other guys (all friends). She gets flirty when she's drunk (like most people). Yadda yadda yadda, people are happy, talking, etc.

One guy, a friend of mine for the past 4 years, has always liked my wife. Actually told me he'd like to fuck her. The two of them flirt, openly, when they are around each other...wrestling, pillow fighting, etc. Never seemed like a big deal. He was completely crap-faced.

OK so everyone moves into the garage, except for myself and 3 or 4 other adults, playing with the kids (woohooo!). I walk to the door to the garage and look in - and see my wife sitting VERY close (almost on his lap) with my friend - she's got one leg draped over his leg, and she's leaning REAL close to him. Both were laughing/smiling/whatever. Having a good time.

Let me say this - I don't share my wife. I don't find it exciting to think about her being with another guy, no way no how. Ain't happening.

OK - so I head back into the kitchen to feed our son, and I'm trying to figure out what I just saw. 10-15 minutes later in walks a couple (married, friends of ours, and SOBER), and they both say something like "you might want to go into the garage - things seem to be getting a bit friendly in there". So, I get up, look in the door, and see the exact same thing I saw the first time...my wife with her leg over this other guys leg, sitting VERY close, and having a lot of fun.

Now, I know none of you know me - but I'm NOT a confrontational person. So let me say this - I SHOULD have gone in there at that point and "broke it up" - but I didn't even know for sure if anything was happening. I SHOULD have, but I didn't. Don't jump my case for fucking that up, I've already kicked my own ass for that.

OK - third times a charm. another 10-15 minutes later I look in - surprise - exact same thing. OBVIOUSLY flirting. I'm furious at this point, and I won't go in because I'd only kick someones ass (I'm 6'4 230# and the other guy is 5'10 180 or so).

OK, end of that part. I have confronted her, and she says she "wasn't sitting on his lap" - she conveniently "forgot" to tell me he was touching her ass - and I've had 2 other guys that were there (and didn't know she was my wife) mention that he (my friend) sure was having fun with that chick (MY WIFE). I've got 3 people that said things were getting friendly. And - the guy flirting with my wife called me up the day after to apologize "for getting so drunk in front of the kids" and "he was calling everyone that was there to apologize"...well guess what, he called NOBODY else but me. I'm thinking he's apologizing for more than just being drunk, but for slutting around with my wife.

Am I obsessive? Yup. Am I POSESSIVE? With my wife and child I sure am.

What would you guys do? We've talked...and talked...and talked...all I can picture is her sitting there, leg draped over his lap, sitting close (you could call it intimate) laughing and talking.

I'm mad, sad, angry, pissed, frusterated...and I don't know how to NOT think about it. I know they didn't fuck, anything like that. But to actually SEE my wife blatantly flirting and hanging on another guy - it hurts.

Thanks for reading - I'm VERY open to suggestions from both sexes.

-A