Transgender

A word that causes most people to avert their eyes and causes anxiety in both genders. It seems to threaten both genders, but in different ways. Even some gay and lesbians are unsettled by the phenomenon.

I am a MtF transgender (male to female), but there is also FtM (female to male). There are transsexuals, who chose to make the complete transition through hormone and surgical procedures. There are transvestites, which chose to live in their desired role full time by dressing as the opposite gender. And then there are crossdressers, who chose to step in and out of their transgendered roll.

It is a sort of sexual limbo. Are you straight, gay, or bisexual? All of the above, none of the above, or just confused as hell?

As best as I can tell, it is a rebellion of sorts against the socialization of genders. Example: What happens when a small child falls and skins it’s knee. In the case of a female child, they are scooped up by their parent, soothed and comforted. In the case of a male child, they are told to shrug it off, take the pain, and “Be a man!” This is an oversimplification of the issue, but it shows the basis of gender socialization.

This unfulfilled suppression of emotions and feelings can sometimes crop up in later life in some rather interesting reactions. Transgender is one of them. It can also result in dominance/submission and other areas labeled as “kink”.

When I made my decision to come out as a crossdresser, I dreaded it because of the shame and stigma. Instead, when I finally did take the big step, I found it to be enlightening and fulfilling. I had finally become a complete person.

That’s my vent for the day. One thing that helps those into TG is networking with others. We are such a minority, that the feelings of being outcasts and being alone are sometimes overwhelming. I invite any others facing these issues contact me, either through the thread or by PM. If you want more information, here is a great website:

http://ourworld.compuserve.com/home...thytg/anima.htm

Above all, I want everyone to know that the most elevated form of the human condition is friendship and companionship. Sex may cum, and sex may go, but a friend is always there.

Keep up the good work, Pixies!

Your friend (who happens to wear funny clothes),

Tess
Aka H@rd Rock

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