I've re-read my other post and it didn't seem quite right to me. What I meant to say was that my husband takes medication for some health issues. That, in turn can make him tired and he just doesn't have the energy to do "anything". This has been going on for almost 3 years. In that time frame, we've made love 2.5 times. I'm not at the end of my rope, but I'm getting there. There's only so much you can do to keep your mind busy and only so much a vibrator can do. I can't masturbate successfully. It brings on immense frustration. There is no release. An old, dear friend would, I know, be delighted to get me in bed. However, I'm married and he's 88 years old. You may chuckle, but that's what I've got. I've always had a problem with body image. I'm not too bad at 47. I could use a tweak here and there...but not bad. So, I guess I'm looking for some way or something to unwind with. An affair is out of the question. So, if you thought my first post was a little weird and cold...my apologies. I've never done this before. Any help would be appreciated.