This is kinda long sorry ..

I met my husband when he was 19 and I was 24, he was VERY inexperienced which didn't bother me. After about 2 months together he had to go away to work and we spent time talking on the phone, the problem was after a week it seemed the only reason he wanted to talk to me was so he could get himself off (which really pissed me off .. you see I arent a prude at all but it was a case of hi.. lets talk about fucking ok gotta go.. bye..) .. when he got back I told him how much it pissed me off to be used like a 1900 number. He told me he assumed I was doing the same, and didn't understand why I was upset.

Things got better after we got back to where we were and we got married 2 years ago. He learned a lot and had a lot of stamina up until about 8 months ago. Now hes always tired, when I initiate he tells me no (its wrecked my self esteem, I had finally got to a point (after a previous abusive relationship of 7 years) of accepting myself and thinking that I may be ogle worthy.) and now has sex with me every 3-4 days when he wants it and when we do its over in 5 minutes.. no exagerration unfortunately. I'm toying with the idea of cheating which I have never done before. I really don't know what to do, the last time we had sex he jerked himself off into my mouth which he had never done before but I enjoyed alot, then immediatley turned around said I had forced him to do it (not true) he was going to sleep and was not gonna do anything for me , even though I'd been sucking his cock for a good 30 minutes. Now he won't talk to me, has told me I only want him for his dick and he may want to split up..

What is your advice oh knowledgable ones???
Sorry this message is so long....