NurseTraci---Pardon me for being judgemental.I have Two daughters that were very into sports while growing up.I used to
get really pissed off;when I would go to their games;and see the
prejudice ;in sports,just because they were female!That's(prejudice against females)one of the reasons that I don't follow
the Catholic religion anymore.More on that later.I don't want to
piss-off any highly religous people.My oldest daughter played
basketball(don't know that much about it.)My youngest was a
pitcher in baseball.I was a pitcher;so i think that I can unbiasly
make a judgement on talent.My youngest had the build for gym-
nastics and didn't follow it because she was female and that
really hurt because my buddy and I used to put on exibitions on
the parallel bars&spanish rings.(in high school;at night) Irish
P.S.As you can see-I get a little mad&protective about women.
I believe in equal pay for equal jobs but the work had better be
done equally good!

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First, I am saddened to hear about your rape. No one should ever go through anything like that what so ever. That was a very personal moment and it is good to hear that you were able to overcome that.

My wife and I have a deal. Regardless how tired or whatever we are doing, if one of us wants it, the other will comply to the other needs. It works in both of our favor. I can go down on her for as long as she can stand it. Your man should be happy that you had fulfilled a request that he had of you allowing him to cum in your mouth. My question is this, what would it matter to him if you swallowed or not?? If I cum in my wife and if she wants me to go down on her, I will still lick her sweet pussy even if it had both of our love mixture in her. It makes her go wild when I do. Would he not kiss you or think less of you if you did swallow? I wouldn't be embarrased about it if I was you. You would make me proud if you were my lady and you swallowed for me and that is what he should be of you.
Now for him getting his jollies and not giving yours, he should had overcome his tiredness and tooken card of his beautiful lady. Next time, let him know that you are hot and you need to get your fix. If he doesn't comply, then there is another topic you and him need to talk about.
I wish you well.

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NT

Sounds like you tried something and didn't like it.

Regroup and move on, either within the relationship or after.

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Seems like it's settled. NT just needed to vent.

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Apparently the first time was a little overwhelming; a little communication goes a long way...

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Never argue with an idiot. He'll drag you down to his level, & beat you with experience.

Sorry to hear about the rape incident.All i can say is talk things out more often,be open,and go with the flow

I believe a lot of us jumped the gun a little. If you are happy with your guy, and it sounds like you are, I apologize (as many of the rest of the guys already have.

You know, shit happens during sex to all of us that we either don't like or are uncomfortable with. (Not referring to your rape, that is a different topic altogether.) I guess it's a learning experience.

You might want to ask your guy what he thinks about swallowing. You spit before *wink, wink, but if he came in your mouth again, would he like it if you swallowed? And would he kiss you afterwards? Some guys won't. I personally have never had a mouthful of my own cum spit back into my mouth after kissing my wife post-blow, so it's not been a problem. If he doesn't like the idea of you swallowing, then maybe you could make a real show of it. Spit the cum back out onto his cock and rub it in... or your chest, stomach, etc. Maybe instead of cumming in your mouth, you could have him pull out and cum on your chest, stomach or face if you were comfortable with it. There are lots of variations that you both might enjoy.

My wife recently had a baby and we have not been able to have intercourse yet. However, we are enjoying a very active post-partum sex life. Since we've been pleasuring each other sans-vaginal penetration, we've explored me cumming in her mouth, on her tits, on her face and neck and even on me sometimes. We both have enjoyed all of it thoroughly.

We are planning on "taking the plunge" and actually doing it on Valentine's Day. That will be the end of the 6 week grace period. I'll most likely not be cumming outside her anywhere that night!

Again, sorry for the bad advice last time. Wish you luck with exploring your sexual options and pleasing both you and your BF.

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personally i like to cum on my gf-s face. Fortunately she love this too. But i enjoy cumming anywhere as long as it has something to do with her body.


I like to see her swallow when i cum in her mouth, i love to see her play with it, whatever she does is good for me.

What the problem might be in YOUR case is that he can't do more than 1 'number'. Usually after a looong foreplay and a very high excitement that makes your body tremble [that was the 1st time he came in your mouth, was it not?], he might just got exhausted.
And trust me, there is nothing in this world that would wake me up after a good sex.
What to do?
nothing at firts, because, with the novelty lost the power of the orgasm will be lower, and he won't become a vegetable secons later
and if it continues, do the bj AFTER he satisfied you.

PS: LOTS of guys would love their gf to do all that stuff, he-s very lucky

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I have to disagree!Yes;alot of guys would like thier g/f to do that
but if they cared about the other person;they would make sure
that they were satisfied also.I am quick to rest after an orgasm
also but there has to be a reciprocal agreement if you expect a
repeat performance.That's one of the reasons for "One night stands." Irish
P.S.Just my $.02.
Sex is like business!A satisfied customer is a repeat customer!

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Well said Irish, well said!

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Hi sweetie.
HUGS I am so sorry to hear about the terrible thing that happened to you, and I am so pleased to see you write that you have come to terms with it. I used to work in a large city ER department, (New Orleans), and I have seen the devastation that this can bring.

OK, about the problem you have posted. You have only given us a little peek into your sexual life, so it is hard to answer all you have asked.
I think that both of you are very young, (did I really say that?) and not very experienced. TALK TO HIM! He needs training in how to be a good lover, how to be a good lover TO YOU. You MUST share with him, or any lover. (Guys, a lot of you here have asked me about the differences between sex with a man and another woman. One thing I have found is that another woman is going to listen to me during sex... this is just a general thing, please don't yell at me)
I LOVE to give bj's, and also love to swallow. I ALSO love the feel of a man's cum on my skin...
Most men love it when a woman swallows. BUT if he gets put out over my not swallowing for some reason, (and sometimes they do), or get rude over my request that they use a condom if they want to cum in my mouth, (maybe because I don't know him well enough), that tells me he is not he is not someone I want to date. I swallow only if I want to... and sometimes this is all that happens between us, because for me sex doesn't always mean we both cum.
In other words, sometimes I go down on a man, he cums, I swallow, or rub it over my skin, or help him take the condom off, and then we go on doing whatever. It is fun, sexy, and requires less privacy than full sex... But this is what I ENJOY, not what YOU have to do.
I like the fact that you two were trying something new, and that he ASKED first, it shows that there is a lot hope for him, he seems to care.
After he came, and you returned to the bedroom, he lasted only 3 minutes before saying he was "too tired". If you yell at him he will get defensive, and then angry, and nothing will be acomplished except a fight. Maybe next time, you should cum first, and then treat him to a bj. Maybe he will enjoy cumming on your breasts or something similar, IF you enjoy it.
Also, don't start lying about having an orgasm. His ego will survive. It is a bad habit to get into.

I hope this helps, or at least, doesn't hurt.


Wickedly, (and feeling old at 30)

WW

Nurse Tracie,

I have read all of this thread and I am most impressed at what has gone on,
First you had a problem and asked advice and got supportive answers from concerned people who cared about you enough to try to help.

I too would have said evaluate you relationship from your first post.

But you read what was said and then thought about it and was able to put it all into perspective.

The answer is to talk about it with your man and if you dont like it find an alternative that is acceptable.

The other thing is the rape. You are doing remarkably well. I am a male rape victim, at 16 in the air force and the effects it has had on my life has been profound. When it happened in the late 60's well no one talked about rape much and the female victims were stigmatised unfairly. As for it happenning to a male, well that was absolutely ignored and whilst I have learned to live with it, it will always be there.

It has though in some ways made me a better person. I really care about people and their feelings and with a sexual partner I always make it an act of giving and sharing rather than merely taking pleasure. I suppose I get a sense of safety from an intimate embrace with a female. I feel whole when we have shared an orgasmic time.

I wish you all the best and hope that you will again share a problem among friends because it is a healthy way of solving it.

To all the responders here, you are good people and it reinforces my view that nice people like sex too.

Sorry for being a bit emotional, but this sort of kindness touches me right in the core.

GG

WW---I agree with everything that you say except that every-
thing wasn't always talked about as it is now.When I was going
;with my wife;you couldn't ask her what felt best to her; because
sexual things weren't discussed.I think that we discussed things
more than most couples did.Perhaps;that is;one of the reasons that our marriage has lasted so long!We both cared about the
others feelings.For example;I couldn't ask her to show me how she touched herself because;in those days;women didn't admit
to masturbating!She didn't admit to doing it almost every night
until; in conversation;after marriage.Luckily;I cared about how
she felt too!Alot of fiances(sp)and husbands didn't and I think
that is why alot of relationships failed.Openness with your partner
is a nessessity.That(in my opinion)is what is better about the
newer generations. Irish
P.S.If you're embarrassed to consult one another;you don't belong together!(My $.02)We were married in 1965.

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