Okay..so I'm thin skinned and don't take criticism/feedback very well. But I'm working on it. So that's good.

But I got to thinking. What separates thin skinned from thick skinned? When the feedback is right on (i.e. in my case I know it to be right) how do you stop putting energy into the 'dang it' part? I mean, I can change my behavoir today. But I still have that 'busted' feeling?

Anyway, I think you see what I'm asking. How do thick skinned people deal with the 'you got caught' part? as opposed to thin skinned folks. Ideas? Tips?

Question 1. Is it going to kill me?

Question 2. Can I recover from it?

Question 3. Is it going to break me financially?

No? Then look sincere and think "Fuck it!"

Learn from it.

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On the kinkometer, my kink measures as a sine wave.

How about making a list of the things you like about yourself. Say something like...OK, so I am xxx and I need to work on that by doing.....But I am also kind, literate, and a great father (or something of the sort).

People are never black and white. We all have stuff we need to work on, but we also have other stuff of which we can be proud!

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I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

I couldn't agree more with Osuche!

The only thing I can add, is that when you're in that situation, remember to be as forgiving of yourself as you are of others. What I mean to say is, you know your wife/kids/friends/family have their faults, but it doesn't make you love them any less; likewise, when one of your faults has been pointed out, it doesn't mean that you are any less loved. Also, if you are criticised by someone whom you don't particularly 'rate', don't fret about it. Sometimes people are just incompatible in their opinions/priorities etc and there's nothing wrong with just agreeing to disagree (even if you don't do so out loud!)

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Fruit flies like a banana"

M Y - N A U G H T Y - P I C T U R E S ! !

Criticism and feedback are not related to being "busted." Being "busted" and the repercussions are usually about punishment/reinforcement. Criticism and feedback are useful tools in helping someone create change they choose/want to make. To me one involves the acceptance of responsibility much more than the other.

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