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The thought goes a long way, but what you come up and are comfortable with doing ... I suggest that you do so without having to be asked ... small things will mean a lot ...

The week she has chemo .. on her first day or two home, you might take the kids out for some activity away ... she isn't likely to feel up to doing much in those first couple of days and the kids may need a chance to get away and release some of their energy and fears ... and it will give her a time when she doesn't have to think about putting on a brave face for them every moment.
She probably won't be allowed to see many people in those days, so you might arrange it ahead of time, it will give them all something to look forward to ... even if it's just a trip to the local park for an hour or so ... or maybe a trip for an ice cream ... something not too out of the ordinary, but a change ...

If she has to stay in the hospital over night, you might show up with a casserole or just a dessert on one of those nights.

A card that arrives during the week after chemo ... something bright and cheerful

If it's the right weather for this, you might get a few flowers that can be planted outside her window ...

that's a start of some ideas anyway ... any thoughtful gesture at such a time will mean a lot!

Giving her kids opportunities to get out and be "normal" kids not kids with a sick mom, is probably the best gift you can give. Several of us also used to take chocolate to a friend of mine who passed away last summer from the same disease. It was the one food she wanted.

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Any small gesture you make will go a long way. Offering to look after the kids even if it's just chasing them around the park for an hour will surely help out... doing their lawn a week might help free up some of their time... little cards and notes are a great way to lift someone's mood.

even though you've put the gesture for help, she's unlikely to straight up ask for it.

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I think taking the kids out is the BEST idea....I am sure that would be really appreciated

The casseroles/cooking is good too -- she may not have enough energy to cook and the family might appreciate a home cooked meal.

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I am going to PM you the url to the book my friend wrote about trying to be a mom who has cancer. It was published right after she passed away. The website also has links to a support group she started here called~ Chicks~ Choosing Hope In Cancer. Scary but I personally was the teacher to the children of at least 4 women in that group. Maybe reading someone else's story would help her. My friend remained positive right up to the end.

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

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One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
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What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

How odd I just posted about her and there is a story about her on the front page of our local section of the paper. Guess lots of people are thinking about her now.

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The practice of putting women on pedestals began to die out when it was discovered that they could give orders better from there.~ Betty Grable

If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
<~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~>
One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas