i can't control my anger. i have tried tia chi, yoga with a lot of breathing excersizes, therapy when i was in school(my problem has been around for almost ten years now), the local mental health unit at the hospital, talking to people, acting out anger in a civilized way(beating pillows, hitting walls, shooting guns, yelling, boozing, drugs[not prescription, ie. dope, coke, speed, meth]) and sex(feels good, but still no long term effects) has no avail to my needs and wants. i have a family. my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 years(we have been living together for almost 2 years) and we have a 14 month old daughter together. i love my girl and my kiddo very much, and i don't want my sweet Zoe Jane to see daddy in an assylum or go through a messy break-up with my dear Erin. i need help. badly! if anyone could help, i would really, REALLY appreciate any suggestions or comments or web sites or phone numbers. i feel like i have a short amount of time before my girlfriend won't be able to take any of my shit and leave me. please, i'm at my wits end and my last staw has ben taken and burned in front of me.

jeremy

Have you offerred her family therapy with individual counseling for yourself and perhaps (anti-anxiety) medication???

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My suggestion is to get into a anger management class or group therapy...in addition to one of those, I would suggest family therapy (with everyone, even the kids). If after some time in therapy, the therapist thinks you should go on meds and refers you to a psychiatrist, then so be it. But for someone with a drug history, I would be hesitant to go straight to psychotropic meds.

First you have to look at your behaviors and those patterns, and if any of those abusive or maladaptive coping mechanisms are still present. If you are still on any illegal drugs or alcohol, you won't be able to overcome nything.

The best idea is conjunctive therapy and support. This is not something that can be done on ur own, so make sure to make use of your resources. In my exerpience, the people who survive are the ones who recognize their resources and support system, then make use of it all.

If that means going away for a while to a rehab center or some sort of inpatient care, then so be it...sometimes getting to a neutral environment away from triggers can help. However, take the other options first.

Good luck.

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well, about this time last year(which is coinsidently around my birthday), i was in the mental health unit at my hospital for alcoholism, depression and anxiety. they gave me some meds, but(stupid me) jumped off the meds and went to a die-hard yoga stage. that died quick with the lack of time to do my excersizes/stretches in the morning/afternoon/evening. i have found that i have a very addictvie personality, like my fondness of the drink, the tobacco, csi and other such things thatothers find strange. i think the things that i become so easily addicted to are fascinating, and as tome goes by the poeple around me become annoyed and irritated by my cozy structue of my life, and i feel that i have to change to regain that feeling i had before i was annoying. with all of my friends, i am the one they all talk to about their problems with life, girls/guys, work and other things, like i am their therapist. i also have this thing i call "the jesus christ syndrome", where i would do anything to help my friends out or even a total stranger, but in doing that, i end up disappointing the two dearest people in my life.

You can chase all the help you think you need, but the only person who can help you is you.

You need to learn to dis-engage when you feel the "flare" coming on.

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