I felt similarly when i found out I was pregnant with my son. My husband had made it very clear in the past that he wasn't interested in having kids, and when I found out i was pregnant I was terrified to tell him. Turns out he actually responded much better than i thought he would, and actually hasn't turned into a half-bad father...for the time the army has let him be around.

If you are, then there's nothing you can do about it now, start relaxing and enjoy it. Do not stress out, that just makes it worse. Just go with the flow and enjoy all the extra attention you'll be getting.

If you aren't, then you and your boy need to have a very serious conversation about what exactly you want, and when you want it. Be totally honest, and make him to the same.

Best Wishes,
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If it's the same guy as in this post ~~~~> http://216.150.92.84/forums/showthr...08&page=1&pp=15

I'd suggest you walk away, he doesn't sound like someone who would make a very kind and caring father.

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Um...just reread the previous post that Lil put the link up for and I stand by my feelings.

If you have so many questions about this guy...if you have so many negatives about the relationship...if the guy keeps putting up obstacles for you to navigate around...if, if, if...

looloo...Why would you put yourself in a position where you might get pregnant by a man you are not sure of? What happened to birth control? And beings that it isn't the first time that this might have happened with the same guy...why don't you respect yourself enough to take charge of your own body and therefore your future?

You don't have to answer these questions out loud...but do answer them for yourself!

My advice? If you are pregnant and you plan to carry to term...Yes, the father has a right to know. That it'll do you any good to make him aware...*shrugs* I doubt it if it's the same guy from the other thread.

I don't believe that he doesn't talk to his ex's anymore (your follow post up in the other thread). I believe that that's what he's told you and I can't believe that you believe it!

Whatever the outcome hon...I wish you the best! And if you aren't pregnant? WHEW! Take that as a cue to adjust your life so that these "scares" don't happen again!

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Lixy's absolutely right.

Sounds like, whether this man is being honest with you or not, your relationship is not stable enough to invite another person to join, let alone someone as vulnerable and needy as a child.

Don't think that having a baby will make this relationship stronger. It won't. It never does. Babies put immense strain on even the strongest couples, so a relationship where there are already doubts about fidelity, committment, mutual goals (like having a child, for example) etc is going to be even more pressured.

If you are pregnant, I'm afraid that your first responsibility is no longer to your man, or even to yourself, but to your child, and there's plenty more damage done to a child from them having 'the wrong' kind of father in their lives than having no father in their lives.

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So....are you pregnant? If I may ask.
If you are...I'm sorry he's a jerk.....and if you are not.....then dump him, you deserve better.

Don't know his side of the story, but from what you've said he's not trying very hard to make your relationship work.