OK, having a discussion with a friend makes me ask our panel of experts.... do women view their men friends as those I would mate and date and those I buddy with but would never date?

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Well... I know for me that the distinction exists, but it's normally an unconscious thing. I don't line my male friend up and say yes, yes, no, yes... There's some that I've thought about dating, and others that I've thought about definitely not dating, but most I've just never given thought to. If I did, they would fall into one category or the other, I'm sure, but it's not at the top of my list.

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Interesting question...

When I was single, men friends were just men friends to me. When I considered them a "buddy" I didn't usually place them on the "would like to date list".

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Hmmmmm.... interesting question BigBear .... I've never really thought about it in generic terms .... my friends are my friends .... (men or women) and there are some I'd date .. some I've started dating before we became friends and some I probably wouldn't date with a purpose, though I'd gladly attend some function or other with them if one of us needed a "date" to comfortably attend. One of the funnest times I ever had as a night out was such an occassion .... it was sponsored by a local singles church group and the only way you could attend was with a "date" ... a lot of people there came with a friend they probably wouldn't date (with a purpose), so it ended up in the dancing time that there were exactly the number of people for everyone to be dancing, but most of the dances weren't with the person you came to the party with ... all of us had a great time ... and in fact the people who said it wasn't as fun for them ... the ones who were there with a boy/girl friend that they were seriously dating.

never say never I guess ...

I think all my male friends are "date-worthy" but I like them as is. I wouldn't hesitate to introduce them to my single gal pals, though.

I think of them as brothers and wouldn't want to mess up that dynamic.

LOL Steph, the worse quote in the world to me is "I love you like a brother!" I can't tell you how many times I've heard it. I usually hear it when I've fallen hard... that bites too.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery