Would you add or remove any of the following when considering compatability or attraction factors in a relationship?

Physical attractiveness
Ability to sexually satisfy
Compassion / empathy
Intelligence
Humour
Social status / Earning power
Parenting skills
X factor / Danger factor
Affectionate
Reliable

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.

Vigil,

At my stage in life, I'm no longer interested in the X factor / Danger factor.

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Eudaimonia

Which, I am glad to say, means that you are still interested in the other nine??!!

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.

except for social status and earning power, the rest are pretty valid.

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Trees give peace to the souls of men * Nora Waln

The forest would be very quiet if no other birds sang than those who sing the best * Henry van Dyke

some fairly sordid tales, rambles, and anecdotes
Hypothetically Speaking * Something More * Cammy Interrupted * An Experimental Vacation * Masked * so..damn..hot * Thank You * My toy, his idea * no.19 Maple Lane * I Have A Surprise For You * Yesterday * In a Quiet Kitchen * help me decide * untitled prose * more untitled prose

I can't really describe it because it's come second nature.

Like Billy Ocean sings...You wake up and suddenly you're in love.


Hell, I can't even site examples of consistency based upon other people I've loved because one past love was nothing like the other two, and though the other two show similarities...they're strikingly different in some ways as well. So in closing, I can lay out a list of things I like in a woman, a person, but all that goes out the window when someone turns on that light within you.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Any and all of them in some quantity or other.

It all depends on who she is.

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Calm, quiet, smooth, devastating

Vigil,

Yessir! For me, their relative rankings change from time to time.

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Eudaimonia

I would remove:
X factor / Danger factor

I would add:
Professional Drive
Neatness (I dislike messy people living in my home)
Integrity
Passion ~~ for life, for a hobby, and (of course) for me.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

that's a good point osuche!....so many of us list all these attributes that we love about/make us fall in love with a person and we leave out the most important one; that they love us back.

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Trees give peace to the souls of men * Nora Waln

The forest would be very quiet if no other birds sang than those who sing the best * Henry van Dyke

some fairly sordid tales, rambles, and anecdotes
Hypothetically Speaking * Something More * Cammy Interrupted * An Experimental Vacation * Masked * so..damn..hot * Thank You * My toy, his idea * no.19 Maple Lane * I Have A Surprise For You * Yesterday * In a Quiet Kitchen * help me decide * untitled prose * more untitled prose

Compassion / empathy
Humour
Parenting skills
Affectionate
Reliable

and im gonna add loyalty and honesty to the list!

Thank you everyone.

I am a late developer - but then I am a man.

Seems to me that relationships are very complex on some levels. There are so many things that people look for - you can't possibly expect someone to have all these qualities in equal amounts, and then we all prioritise in different ways and have different cut off points when we are not satisfied if these qualities are not present.

Also I can't help thinking that to some, men who explore these issues are something of a loose cannon. I asked my SO about empathy - she just said she didn't do empathy - I'm a bit shocked, but not surprised.

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Vigil, if you were my husband, I would give you poison.

Madam, if you were my wife, I would take it.