One way of doing this can be in a discussion ... such as ...

You know I read somewhere that a lot of people fantasize about ..... (fill in the blank with whatever) .... do you think that could be true ... then ask him some questions about why he thinks such and such would be exciting to many people (or not). It's much less intimidating to comment on what you think about what other people think and for the most part it is a true expression of your own feelings to do so ... also, opening up about fantasies can be incredibly personal ... so start by discussing fantasies that tend to be fairly common and/or mainstream ... once you've both become somewhat comfortable in doing that, you can start discussing ones that don't seem so common. good luck!

You could gather your courage, prepare yourself and tell him something really steamy that'll get his juices flowing, or read him an erotic story... then ask him if he's ever thought about doing that, and if he'd like to do it with you. It'll open up a conversation and point you in the right direction.

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good advice from both ladies ^^^

you could tell him yours.

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some fairly sordid tales, rambles, and anecdotes
Hypothetically Speaking * Something More * Cammy Interrupted * An Experimental Vacation * Masked * so..damn..hot * Thank You * My toy, his idea * no.19 Maple Lane * I Have A Surprise For You * Yesterday * In a Quiet Kitchen * help me decide * untitled prose * more untitled prose

You could slip a print version of a story here that turns you on into his lunchbox/briefcase/pillowcase

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That is the whole point i cant get the courage to come right out and say it but i have been trying to formulate something all day. me and my hubby regularly email stuff back and forth. i was thinking maybe email him erotic stories(as i have a membership with several story porn sites, i like reading erotica better then seeing it.) and say ...ok which of these two or three do you like best or what ever, but im not sure if he would respond correctly. usually when i do something like that i get " why did you send this?" But no real answer.

i feel almost as if he doesnt want to talk about sex to me at all as my first post hints at. perhaps he has issues like mine. But that doesnt seem to be the case. i know there are somethings he likes and we've tried a few things but i cant do the "one" that i think he would get off on the most. that he liked the best.

he likes fisting and i am just too small. the best we got was four ... and that last knuckle just hurt too much. he says it isnt a big deal buti know it is. We have tried anal though he isnt so into this as fisting.And now he doesnt seem to want to eentry anymore. but i cant seem to tell him i want to try again... only this time a little slower and that more lube would help.

here is another question i seen advertised on a porn site the women could learn to "squirt" when they come ... i am wondering if this is true . i would like to try that , yknow as a surprise for him.

Serious Communication Issue Callie *SCIC* lol

And thank you ladies for all your suggestions i will try those i am just lost as to what will get the type of response from him.... namely a verbal responce or conversation. Not just a little extra encounter between the sheets without a word.