This is really hard for me to do so .........
I am A DUMBASS BEFORE anyone else can say anything
My wife is BiPolar and depressive < still not really treated

This story goes on for 10 years prior ....... but I will keep it short.....
I Want a divorse .......... she is clueless....... even though she has been told ..... several times.... how ever I have 2 kidds that i love more than life itself ...... like we all do ....... I dont want to loose them ....... my daughter 5 years old .....Is a daddys girl and wants nothing to do with her mom at all ........ my son 2 1/2 is mommas boy ....... but loves me to death too ..... if i get divorsed it will ruin my kidds and i dont know if i can handle that ..... thats why i have stayed married ....... and not filed..... cause i would rather ruin my life then the kidds lives ........... my daughter and son have no idea something is wrong ...... nor do they have a clue....... my wife dont think anything is wrong either ...... agian even after i tell her all the time ......... she has tryed to obtain help but it isn't really working out ........ i have to much bitterness for what she has done to me in the past ......... but now because of how unhappy i am all the time i find myself being depressed and unconfident more then ever .......... i can't even remember how to do some of the most simple jobs anymore ....... and its affecting my job too ....... custody will go to her ......... no doubt ...... .. i will get them every other weekend ........ but i have to stay in FL and i really have nothing for me here ............ every thing i have is in GA including my education ........
I really just have no idea what to do anymore .......... I really want to take my kidds and run away ........ but i know i can t........... if you need details just ask to help in this advice ............ but i just don't know what to do anymore ..... or even what to say ........ her and i havent really talked in over 2 years ............ HELP !!!!!!!!!!! please i am at wits end........ OH i am broke now too .......... so no money ...... no profesianal help or legal help you know .......... cause of having to move ......... and lower paycheck in FL....... and my chapter 13 now ....... WHAT CAN I DO TO KEEP MY SANITY >>>>>>> ANY ADVICE FOR A FOLLOW THROUGH ............... WHAT CAN I DO

First thing Tiger, finding a happy existance will benefit you and those precious kids. I know you think they're clueless to the marital problems but you'd be surprised what little emotional clues they pick up on. My own divorce wasn't my idea but the thought of separating with my son was unbearable. Hopefully you can keep the dealings civil and get liberal visitations. Whatever you do don't let those kids become bargaining chips. Remind the ex often they're the most important thing. Personally I think taking one step at a time would be the most prudent course. Get the divorce, find a suitable place to live with room for the kids when they visit and then maybe look at the different state thing when you have had time to adjust to living in a different setting and had some time to refind yourself. Take small careful steps and be ever mindful of how the kids are being handled and you should be ok. I ain't sayin' it's easy Bro'... on the contrary it's a real pain but if it's to be done that's how it is done. Feel free to PM me if chatting will help any. God's Speed on your endeavour.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Oh yeah, just one more thing. You ain't a dumbass! We all get into situations that leave us feeling brainless, knowing there's a problem and looking for help isn't dumb. Just another dose of my 2 cents worth.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery

Thank you bigbear
She don't take care of the kidds as much ....she has already pressed false abondoment charges on me from moving from GA to here I had to stay behind a week to finish school ... she came to Fl and pressed abondoment on me ...... so the courts already see me as unfit ........ she always uses the kidds as barganing chips and i don't like it ......... the dumbass part is that i should have done the divorse thing 10 years ago ..... when eveything started but you know what young and stupid is ........ try to make everything look little and concour it ...... cause we know it all ...... but as i grew up ....... well i figured out that everything in the past wasn't so small and kept happening ..... and wouldn't stop ......
but now i know what must be done ....... and I keep thinking My daughter that wants nothing to do with her mother ... will suffer the most being away from me ..... I am the only one that can teach her ...... understand her ..... work with her .... she respects and listens too .... her Kintergarden teacher calls me all the time for advice to take care of her and commend on her knowlege base Even though i cant spell for a crap ........ but I am all she wants and really has .......... Loosing her would be like ........ well loosing my life ..........

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Friend I wish you the very best but it sounds like it's gonna get ugly. Falsly accusing me of anything especially abandonment would have uncorked the devil in me. I'd have a talk with a lawyer and see about having that cleared up and then.. well if she isn't taking care of the kids very well I'd document it and go for custody. Don't just assume the courts see you as unfit... make 'em prove it.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

Love is not looking in each other's eyes, but looking together in the same direction - Antoine De Saint-Exupery