Please don't laugh, I am really truly clueless at this

If I see someone I'd like to meet in another part of a room, should I try and think of a pretext for moving there? Or should I just go right up to them and talk to them? How do I start a conversation from here that isn't awkward and pointless? Is this whole approach totally wrong? How do I keep from getting petrified in these situations?

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If you can't comment on something they have on, are standing near, noticing etc. then I say just walk up and introduce yourself. It is normal to be nervous, it's just not ok to let the fear keep you from doing things/meeting people/getting involved. And no conversation you would begin is pointless, the point is predetermined, it's simply to speak with them.

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Walk over with no pretense...if that person is speaking with someone else be polite and wait until there is a lag in the conversation and introduce yourself to that person and to the others. "Hi, I am __________." If that person isn't speaking with anyone, just say "I think this is an interesting place to be" or a topic that would be appropriate for why you and that other person may be in the room. Just an opening, nothing serious. Then the conversation can move on from there.

Personally, I don't have a problem talking to anyone, and I don't mind when someone I don't know walks over and introduces him/herself. Make a connection and go from there! Good Luck!

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gotta go with the ladies on this one. and never NEVER say "pardon me. can I wear your ass as a hat?"

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Funny when I first met Aqua and he said that, I just got the giggles:grin:

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Hmmm...try to find something in common. I spoke to a guy tonight in the parking lot of the grocery store...introduced myself and commented on the fact that we both had Volvos. We had a great little chat.

And I lik eit when people talk to me ~ as long as they have a pleasant nonthreatening manner.

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Do a Krameresque slide with a smile and compliment her. That'd be memorable!

Situations vary and just being yourself and use your natural talent for wit. If you still seem to be a bit shy--pratice. Just be friendly and learn to enjoy talking to people. When the time comes to approach a lady, things will be easier.

Once you engage in some small and if you sincerely wnjoy getting to know her, just tell her how much you liked talking to her and ask her if you can call her. It is that simple. The worst is to say she has a b/f or just isn't interested.

Oh--just one suggestion--don't stare at her breasts, look her in the eye--you might just be surprised how much she will enjoy being treated as a lady

Striking while the iron is hot is good, too. If you're on a street and you make eye contact more than once . . . maybe compliment her on her dog, her shirt, anything!

I'm terribly shy and would rather crawl into a hole than talk to a person with the intenion of getting to know them better. (no comments from the peanut gallery, please)

But, I am great at small talk. Especially when just crossing paths with someone. At a party - "What're you drinking, that looks good?" Grocery store - "Someone told me that I should try (insert some food item here) but I don't know how to prepare it. Do you have any suggestions?" On the bus - "Steph, your dog just ate my shoe" oops, I mean "I notice you're not on every day, is there a faster route than this one that I'm missing?"

Like everyone said, it's not what you're talking about that is important...it's initiating a conversation. Sincerity shows. Just be yourself. She'll get to know it eventually anyway, right? Might as well make her first impression of you...well, you.

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We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

Where is the peanut emoticon?

Although I'm sure WI considers me part of the peanut gallery, I could never consider him shy.


Sometimes getting to know someone slowly is great, too.


This is not to say I have a crush on WI! I'm just saying that sometimes wonderful facets of a person are discovered after many conversations.

Me thinks she doth protest too much


LOL he has that affect on everyone.

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If I wanted your opinion, I'd remove the duct tape and ask you for it.~ Me
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One man's dream is another man's nightmare~~~~> §¤ Lilith ¤§
~>My Scribbles<~
==>Gone Shopping<== ~Just a Quickie~ *~A Celebration Vacation~* ~Surprises~ Sleeping With the Window Open
What Did You Do Today? Self Defense Class ~Short Sweet Snippets~ § Summer Spin § Story Challenge Submission Pajamas

my wonderful facet is a ?


And the peanut I expected to speak up was Steph. lmao

Let's not forget that it's easier to speak online than in person. Face to face interaction is always more, I don't know...decisive? Or maybe confrontational is a better word to use. I mean, when you aren't getting any results over the phone, you meet with someone in person and it usually results in some type of resolution to your situation. If you're trying to merge into a busy lane of traffic and nobody will let you in...make eye contact with someone and odds are, they'll let you in. Face to face interaction makes the situation personal, so it can be a lot more intimidating. That's why it seems contradictory to hear me say that I'm shy. But try meeting me in a social setting. No, I mean PLEASE!!!!! Someone meet me! :drive: :hug: :d:

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.

ROFL nice little emoticon story there, Shy Boy!