I hope some of my more experienced pixies friends can give me some input on this matter. Some of you already know alot of the story, I am divorced and have one child that is my own with her..two step-children and a child that was born out of the marriage..in other words she had an affair. I have found a real nice lady..could be serious. The problem is this..my ex is throwing an absolute shit fit. She has threatened me and told me many times that this woman that she has never met is a trouble some bitch that my kids can't stand..and that i need to choose between the new lady or the kids..according to her..they hate her and don't wish to be around her. I ask them and they tell me that she is ok. The ex-wife even turned the girl friend for child abuse..because supposedly there is a bruise on my 15 year old son. Of course the social worker either couldnt or wouldnt tell me who reported the bruise. The bruise if there is one..wasnt caused by my girl friend..if anything it was me and my dad..and son horse playing. It is really pissing me off..and would like some advice, or input..i thought when i was divorced that i would be rid of the problem, but obviously not. Help!!!!!!

Damn, I can name this tune in 3 notes. Man your ex is experiencing control issues. If you have someone in your life she can't pull the strings for free sitting when she wants. She's afraid anybody in your life will complicate things for her. I had similar problems and even mistook her ranting for having feelings for me. Talk about a rollercoaster ride! Finally I just had to tell her to butt the hell out. I'm as much a parent as she is and I would n't dream of having anyone in my life that didn't get along with my kids. I was quite a bit harsher than that and it shocked her to no end. We didn't talk for a few days but when we finally did she was a different person. I wish you the best, I sure know how Ya feel. I hope my little bit of nothing helps to some degree.

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BigBear..thanks just knowing that i am not the only one that has had this problem helps a bunch..i have tried to ignore her but i guess that isnt going to work..thanks i appreciate it.

(((HUGS)))

Like my friend BigBear57 said.. it is all about control.. and her desire to be the one with it.. tell her to butt the hell out.. and walk away from her... your kids are old enough to stand up for themselves...

Pegasus..and Jennaflower..HUGS and KISSES to both of you..you both are great friends. Thank you for the words of encouragement..they mean a lot.

My ex had an ex just like that! Grrrrr. She was the one who wanted to separate but as soon as he started dating me, she had issues.

Is there a way you could talk to her & find out what her problem is? Tread lightly. You usually can't win with people like her. The key is letting her pretend she's won.

I haven't been through anything like this ....but I agree with BigBear...it's a control issue & I think very much a jealousy issue. Need to put a stop to it now sweetie...or you will have to deal with her doing this to you no matter who you're having a relationship with. You deserve to be happy. Hugs & Kisses..