Hey guys...
I know this has come up lots of times, but I need some renewed advice, maybe some of you have come up with new ideas?

Even though I don't do it too often, I like to have anal sex and use toys back there as well, but it's hard for me to get used to the idea of feeling pressure and some pain back there.
we go slow
we use loads of lube....
and i try to get as turned on as possible before we even really begin
and I still feel too tight and it gets unbearable to go any farther. What do you think I can do? I'm very open minded and I don't want to let this get me down, however since I do experience pain (much more than what I can handle) it makes me not try this as often as I'd like to.

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Xs and Os,
Kristin

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"Beware how you take away hope from another human being."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

i know it doesn't sound good--but the only time my wife lets me in the back door is if she has plenty to drink as then it loosens her inhabitions and also she feels less pain

lots of lube! both alchohol and back there too...

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wine is not the only thing that gets better with age...

You know...I am still stuck on the idea that a lady doesn't have to like *everything* sexually. If ou don't enjoy anal play, don't do it. Find something else you enjoy more. You're not necessarily doing it wrong...you may just not be built for it, or at least not built to *enjoy* it. Find something else that takes your fancy.

**shrugs**

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

you know, that could very well be it, but after the "easing in" part, i've become to enjoy it...i've just been trying to find a way to make that whole semi-painful process a little easier...i guess its just "lube lube lube"....and you know alcohol is a good idea...
i'll be "sucessful" soon....i mean we've been close to successful but i dont "practice" as often b/c of the pain

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Xs and Os,
Kristin