So I started talking to this guy online and we seemed to hit it off. We talked like all day every day for a couple of weeks straight and we both said that we weren't looking for a serious relationship. We had a mutual acquaintance and she said that he was a nice guy as well.

So after talking a while longer the conversation eventually led to sex and we had planned to meet up sometime where it may eventually lead to us having a casual relationship. We had begun fooling around on webcam too. So things kept happening and we never met after like a month. We weren't talking as much as we were when we first started and it seemed like I was the one who initiated the conversation most of the time.

Well one night I was up late and he gets online and he's had a few beers but he wasn't drunk and he starts talking about sex and how he's horny. Starts joking about how I should go over to his house that night. So we keep talking about it and I just keep getting more horny as time goes on. So i end up going over. We're a little shy at first but then things heat up and we're into foreplay. I love giving head so I decide to go down on him and I guess I was really good because he came fairly quickly. Of course he said he'd be able to go again but after 10 minutes decided he was too tired... it was like almost 6am at this point.

So in the morning he says he doesn't have the energy to have sex and things just feel awkward. I go home and we don't talk for a few days and then I hear from the mutual friend that she thinks he deleted me. So I delete him.

I find out a week later that he didn't delete me so we chat a little on msn but he's pissed at the friend for talking about him. So we still aren't chatting much but in the last couple of days he randomly comes up and says he's horny and wants to go on webcam with me. I love watching a guy jerk off so I agree but now it just feels wrong because he'll only talk to me when he's horny and then leaves right after to get a shower or go to bed.

I don't want a relationship or anything with the guy and I have decent guys that I talk to online so he's like my fuck buddy online I guess. But I'm not really digging the only chatting when horny deal.

Any advice on what he may be thinking or what I should say to him? Cause I do like chatting with him and he does turn me on but not really sure what to do.

He's made it clear he is only interested in you when he feels like it and even then he's not really interested in you just someone to watch him beat his meat. Unless you like being used, or really dig him, I'd 'control alt delete' him.

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agree with above

Is so.

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Yeah I guess it is obvious that he's only interested in me when he feels like it but i forgot to mention that he wants to watch me... I play with my tits for him and he jerks off for me. I like watching him but just wondering if anyone had any suggestions for getting a bit more conversation out of him... or is it a lost cause?

and then there's times like now where we're actually have a conversation and it feels like when we first started talking... this guy is confusing haha.

Until he make it crystal clear what he expects out of the connection, you're speculating.

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I'm curious if you've mentioned to him that it seems he only talks when he's horny, but overall I'd say it isn't looking good, he's not exactly giving out alot of signs that he's interested in anything than a convience

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I did actually mention that to him and he said he wasn't... i just said whatever lol... he said seriously he wasn't... but then he continued to ask me to show on cam lol. But yeah I'm kinda giving up hope on ever seeing him in person again. Doesn't seem like it's gonna happen. I just figured that any guy would rather have sex than play by himself.

Obviously he's not "any guy".

Come to think of it, I don't believe any of us are...

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okay you dont want a relationship but you want him to take more interest in you? you want him to be a fuck buddy but you dont want him to only talk to you when he's horny?


these are not congruous ideas...... maybe i'm not reading this properly but sounds like he's fairly the epitome of fuckbuddy and non relationship and you're looking for something more?


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So, you gave him oral and he gave you nothing? If I met a woman that wanted to go that route, she'd have to be a frikkin' saint for me to talk to her again. Maybe I'm wrong but a good lover makes sure the partner is taken care of regardless of how they feel. Course, my wife isn't giving me much opportunity lately for anyone to be taken care of so maybe I'm a bit touchy...

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Im new here but from what Im reading he only wants you for sex and that isnt nice, personally Id ask him straight what he wants and ask him to be honest, not to beat around the bush so to speak. Heres me looking to meet someone I can chat with and have fun and Im being an agogny Aunt ( lol thats a first) but seriously get him to come clean, its not nice being messed around. Then perhaps he may talk more on different subjects

Ignore him. If he makes motion toward you, just wait with the "I'm listening" response only, until he volunteers enough good self revelation to make responding worth your time. If he grovels and/or begs, pleads or diminishes himself, say good-bye and don't look back.

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Sounds to me that perhaps your definitions of 'Fuckbuddy' are different. For him, it seems that he's using you in the same way that he would use a porn film. Flick it on when you're in the mood and then get it the hell off your screen when you've had what you wanted from it.

You on the other hand, think of this as a friendship with sex. Perhaps he has difficulty differentiating between "friendship with sex" and "a relationship" which is why he doesn't communicate with you the way you'd expect him to.

All in all, if the relationship is making you feel used and/or dirty, then ditch it. If you think you can use him in the same way - think of him as free porn and nothing more!- then try going ahead with a relationship that way. I don't think you're going to get the trust and friendship you're looking for with this man. It's clearly not on his agenda.

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