
03-17-2007, 07:22 PM
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Pixies Devilish Soul
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Eavesdropping
Eavedropping is wrong in most respects. Many of us can agree with that. Even in a relationship there should still be some measure of privacy. We don't read our lovers personal correspondence or listen at the eaves. However if such a situation does occur...
Should the eavesdropper really be mad when they hear something negative about them (relationship-wise) that they were never intended to hear? Does one just suck it up and continue with life or confront the other person? Trust is hard to gain back once lost. So should someone admit to breaking trust even when confronted with the proof of misdeeds (or the true feelings or those instances in which things that would never be voiced come to light)?
Well that is my query of the day.
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03-19-2007, 12:30 PM
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Seeking out an opportunity to listen in on a conversation is wrong and distrustful. That it may or may not be about you is irrelevant.
Overhearing something negative about you is one of those things that can sometimes happen. The fact that she was saying it out of earshot doesn't automatically mean the worst. It could mean that she needs to hear an objective viewpoint about her thoughts and doesn't want to hurt you by voicing them to you.
You know her better than we do, and you understand the dynamic of your relationship. I can tell you things are fine, or that she's plotting your demise, but it doesn't mean anything. Only you are there.
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03-19-2007, 09:52 PM
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Pixies Devilish Soul
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Whoah...Irish it was just a generalized hypothetical here. Just to put everyone at ease in case I've given off the wrong impression with my thread.
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03-20-2007, 07:56 AM
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"You" and "she" are shorter to type than "evesdropper" and "the other person".
I understand now that it was purely hypothetical, but the comments are general enough to apply to anyone.
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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.
For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.
Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.
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03-20-2007, 09:31 AM
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Mrs FussyPucker
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If I overheard my other half saying something negative about me in terms of our relationship, I'd take it to heart and try to 'change my ways'. There's no point getting angry about someone telling their friend about one of your failings.
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