Hiya All,
I have been with my partner for about 7months now but I am not really sure if he is as commited as I am. He is alway's looking at porn on the net, talking to his ex's and telling themabout our sex life and with one he was planning to meet up with her behind my back and telling her that he still has feelings for her.
I have confronted him about this and he say's in relation to meeting up with her he was only leading her on and telling her that he had fellings for her to see what he can get out of her as she has feelings forhim and claims that she loves him..
So I am really confused and not really sure what to beleive, I do want to trust him but he is really testing my trust and patience....

Can somebody please help me????

Sorry hun but he sounds like an ass....

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Trust is truly the basis of any good relationship. It sounds like he hasn't a clue what that means, so sorry Hon. Sounds like he has all he'd ever need and doesn't respect that enough to act responsibly.... whatta turd!

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I wouldn't feel comfortable with my boyfriend talking to his ex-girlfriends about our sex life, let alone leading another woman on! It's incredibly cruel to the other woman, too. He wants to see what he can get out of her? I hope he gets a punch in the face or a kick in the balls.

Don't waste your time on him hun. Do not invest anymore of yourself in this relationship. I know it is easier said than done sometimes, but you need to take this step. Game playing with someone's emotions is a form of abuse and you need to break away from him.

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Hi again, looloo

I realize my post may have seemed harsh & I'm glad Chey came in after with me with better, gentler reasoning.

I know you've been seeing him seven months & there's definitely some good to him but I saw lots of negatives about him in your post.

I hate to say this but the guy is not worth your time. Find someone worth your love and attention. He isn't.

Good luck!


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There are a lot of guys out there that deserve your efforts more than this guy. I just hope you don't have too much of yourself invested up to this point.

Its obvious this guy is not good for you.....I mean ask yourself, if a friend came to you with the same scenario, what would you tell them? More than likely you would say that the guy is cheating on ur friend and you have no reason to trust him.

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OMGGGGGGGGG! Come on looloo! Wake up and smell the deception...will ya!

I truely don't want to be harsh hun...but from what you've told us he is a snake! He's talking to his ex's? WHY? About you and your sex life with him? WHY? With one, he is saying to you that he is trying to dupe her so he can get WHAT out of her?????

looloo...listen to me and heed my words! RUN...do not walk...RUN as fast as your feet can take you out of this "relationship"! To you it is a relationship...to him you are another who he can dangle his bone in front of and get things from!

Tell me this...does he take you on dates? Does he pay sometimes? Do you live together? If so...does he do his share of paying the bills and keeping your place homey? Does he have a job? Have you been carrying his weight till he can "get back on his feet"? Does he live at home with Mommy and/or Daddy? Has he ever had a place of his own and a job longer than a year? Is he in college? How's that going?

Whatever the case...you can see what I am asking...can't you?

Make yourself a list. On one side write down all the pros of this "relationship and on the other write down all the cons. Tally them up! What do you get?

Hunny...please spare yourself the heartache I feel this guy can cause you if you continue with ths "relationship" and fall even deeper for him (for some ungodly reason, cause you've given us no redeeming qualities thus far). He sounds like a true snake-in-the-grass...and in the future he'll just be a pain in your ass!!!!!!

P.S. looloo...Welcum to Pixies! Hope to see more from you on this matter and then everywhere around the boards!

P.P.S. I'm thinking you already knew you'd get this reaction because you just wanted to verify what you are already thinking. It's ok...we are glad to help!

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His intentions toward you don't seem very healthy, and the way he's treating his ex's says a lot about what he thinks of women & relationships in general. It sounds like he needs to grow up a little.

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JUST SAY BYE

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I concur with most of the responses listed: leave him.

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LixyChick, u wanted to know a few things yes he alwa's takes me out and pay's, at the same time I like to be independant and pay for myself, we do live together we have been for about 1 week now, he is a fulltime parent so he doesn't have time to go to work. We do split the bill half half he even pay's more in regards to the rent as my income is less, and he knows that i am really struggling at the moment.

Well there is a update he is no longer talking to this ex gf of his the one that he was going to meet up with, he told her that she is causing too many problems between us.

In relation to what someone else said aswell, I am not upset or mad that he is talking to his ex's, but it's the fact of what he talks to them about and what he say's to them that pisses me off and makes me think that he is not 100% commited to this relationship.

I think you are doing a good job here of answering your question for yourself.