I am curious, are there any men out there that prefer the skilled hands of a gentle patient lover to masssage your cock to a new level over that of a traditional blow job?

I've read that the point of lingam massage isn't to induce orgasm, although that is a often a pleasant and welcome side effect but rather to create a space for the receiver to relax, and receive expanded pleasure from his Lingam. His partner (the giver) experiences the joy of facilitating and witnessing the man surrendering to his softer, gentler side.

The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (the equivalent to the female G-spot), and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.

Men need to learn to RELAX and RECEIVE. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

I had a friend in China explain to me how he prefers a handjob and it sounded most erotic.

Have any of you tried these techniques or enjoyed the pleasures derived from them?

Any helpful hints or suggestions to those wishing to embark on giving their lover such an experience?

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I think I'd have to try both before I could really make a fair judgment call...

...and then try them each again, and again...

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i can't say that i've ever taken a hand job to the exalted levels of a lingam massage (meaning the spiritual stuff) but i have used some of the manual techniques and i must say i prefer to give a hand job over a blow job. mostly because i can watch his face (and more) but there's also so much more to feel and explore, definitely have more control, too.

either way, though - hand or mouth - he sings. *groan* hehehe

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How I do love a handjob!

A "good handjob" is when it's what I'm in the mood for. Sometimes it's slow and steady, with continuous and gentle stroking from the very base of my cock up to the tip and right back down. When I'm close to cumming, don't speed up or grip tighter, just keep the exact same pace. It really is ecstatic.

Other times, I need you to grab ahold of it and pump it like you're churning butter!

To answer your question...dunno. But I sure do love thinking about handjobs. lmfao

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There are some people who cannot give head to save their lives.

There are others who lack the tactile sensitivity to make the lingham sing.

Folks need to play to their strengths.

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I would just like to say...either way I love giving both!

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