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Old 11-15-2003, 12:32 AM
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Question Dominate wife in training

Hubby wants me to dominate him, but I don't know what to do. Any suggestions?
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Old 11-15-2003, 03:09 AM
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Welcome to Pixies, termight22!

Ask him what he wants you to do! He's the one who wants to be dominated!
Find out what he likes - is it just occasional tying up? Or does he like to be humiliated and degraded? Is he talking about only when you have sex, or constant, round the clock power play? Does he want to be spanked/whipped/punished? Does he want you to have control of whether he is allowed to orgasm or not? Does he want you to wear a strap-on and take him from behind?

Get him to make a list of things that would turn him on, and pick and choose which ones you feel comfortable doing and slowly ease into it.

That's my thoughts, let us know how it goes!

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Old 11-15-2003, 07:56 AM
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By the way, termight22, welcome to Pixies. Hope you enjoy your time here. No doubt you can find a lot of input on a lot of subjects here.

I think Casper's suggestions are well thought out as a starting place. Only addition might be to think about any fantasy ideas you may have ever had. Not sure what they might be, but picture taking or snowballing might be possibilities.
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Old 11-15-2003, 09:40 AM
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Welcome to Pixies! We have some dominant women here and they'll be able to give you lots of good advice.

Casper gives great advice. Here's a link to some sites that look interesting:

http://www.latexdominatrix.com/femdom-links/
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Old 11-15-2003, 10:19 AM
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Welcome termight22.:)

Nothing like starting out with some light topic.
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Originally posted by CasperTG
.....Does he want you to wear a strap-on and take him from behind?
.....and pick and choose which ones you feel comfortable doing and slowly ease into it......

Casper always has good suggestions and also a lot of thoughts on most subjects. LOL


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Old 11-15-2003, 10:19 AM
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I say establish a safe word but do not ask what he wants you to do...no topping from the bottom.

Discover what aspect of Domination you are interested in. There are soooooo many levels to explore. Everything from just being assertive in bed to making him your pleasure slave. I would be glad to answer questions in PM if you have any.
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Old 11-16-2003, 06:22 AM
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OK, I stand corrected!

Take Lilith's advice over mine, she's the boss!

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Old 11-16-2003, 10:20 AM
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Nah.. you have many good points as you always do. The word DOMINATE means many things to many people. He may just want her to be on top
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Old 11-16-2003, 11:51 AM
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Agree with Lilith...you need to find out what he means by "dominate".

For example, when Mrs R wants me to be dominant, she wants to be tied and for me to force myself on her (but not too quickly). We often use role play along with this to make things more erotic. The role play is a green light for me to do things that we normally don't do, like anal.

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Old 11-16-2003, 08:29 PM
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I would let my wife dominate me if she wanted to, have already told her that. I think it would be fun now and then!!!
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Old 11-29-2003, 02:39 PM
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I completely understand where termight22 is coming from. My hubby has expressed interest in this as well and so far all I have been able to work my self up to is a little bit of tying him up and some minor name calling....sigh.

My problem is although I am very assertive out of the bedroom I am submissive in it, so I feel inadequate to take on the role of dominant. If this is your problem hon at least you aren't alone.
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Old 11-29-2003, 06:22 PM
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I'd suggest you ease into it - two little tihing you might like to try.

1) When you start making love, and you're just about warmed up, Roll him onto his back without asking, ignore any suggestions and cowgirl him. When you do this, put your hands on his chest or shoulders to hold him down, and order him not to cum until you let him (after you've had your fun). Just take you pleasure using him and see how he reacts.

2) Start as above, then get him in a reverse missionary position. (On his back, knees spread and as high up as you can get themhis cock inside you. You'll have to put him in first, and then get between his legs and bring his knees up - you can even put his feet behind your back.) Now fuck him hard - again with no permission to come before you do. If you look down between you, it's hard to tell if that slippery cock belongs to you or him. Keep telling him you're going to fuck him until YOU have had enough.

Both of these woman-on-top-and-in-control positions will give you both the chance to find out how it feels, and you can move on to the other things suggested as you feel comfortable.
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