Well worth 2 cents in my opinion...

I ahve alwayes rolled my eye on the "not before marrige" becase simply what about if you dont want to get married... i dont meen it in the way of being free but... there are peopel who live together and dont get married, for exampel i'm a guy from sweden i'm in a relationship whit a girlfrom the United states... luckaly we are very much alike and dont realy have much problem but i can see this as a problem.

My brother is 36 have wo children and a 12 year relationship whit his GF... i'm just woundering where do you draw the line of abstinense?

If your adults and sence the leagal age is difrent in sweden and the us i'll say 22 years old... if you ahve not be told in your home or in school about protection and so forth... how are you suposed to know... to me the problem now developing whit a abstinence only polecy is that it's hurting ALOT more in long term in short term i think it could help you can keep down things for a short whiel by controle and holding back on contraseptivs but in a few years...

What about when your when the 13 year old turn 18 in 5 years and they dont know anything about condoms or the pill and i dont think parents will be in the same position to comand the practis of abstinence to the 18 year old.

and lastly i think this is a shame especialy becase it agine strike aginest the young girls out there... i'm 100% sure that if men was the ones getting pregnant contraseptics would be shoved in to the girls and guy pockets ones they hit pubetry.

Women get pregnant the guys do not, your the ones who risk this not the guys so it's easy for men (and i bet my life that this is something men thought up) to favor abstinence they are not the one that get acsidentaly pregnant during the teen years... they dont get hurt by this...

Boys and girls ones they start getting hormones running threw there bodies are going to want to do things... some faster and more the others... it's not the same whit every one... only way to work is to teach about sex vividly show them that this is not something to be a shamed about...

and all that we as a society teach our children is that it is wrong and they should not do it before they are married... we are going to hurt them more then we are ever going to help them.

And to end up... to something i think most can agree on sex is a large part of any relationship... it's not everything but thingk of it in revers what if all you could do was have sex and you could not talk to one another untill you got married... you would not realy know your partner... i think sex is the same way...

and i'm babbeling off whit out end i apolagice