Having re-read this post over the last 2 days may i offer the following, you can totally ignore it if you want.

I have been in a similar situation and sadly it resulted in a divorce. She was making demands on me to change into something that im not and when i wanted time to myself to sort things out and figure out where i wanted to go she would come up with some excuse for her to be around. Sometimes she wouldnt even leave me alone in a room.

I agree with lonleyarmywife you sir DO need ti be rid of this GF and take some time alone.

ill get off my soapbox now,

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