Hi gang,

Thanks for the advice. You have all confirmed what I have been thinking..(and just not wanting to admit) since I am trying to let my son have as "normal" a childhood as possible.

I agree that my wife appears to be trying to "use" me and that she doesn't really want me around as a husband, but as a boyfriend....someone to have fun with, to take her to movies, bring flowers, and stuff like that.

I think of the character Sam Wiesberg in the movie A Few Good Men when he says " I have no responsibility here whatsoever".

I have told her from the day this separation started that the only way I would consider returning is if we, she, the girls and myself, were to get professional help towards becoming a FAMILY...and that is the only way I would return to the home. THAT is not going to happen....period.

She is very content to say that I am not "supporting" her and her needs and wishes, but as you all have very succinctly put things....

What IS in it for me???

Nothing, but headache.

Thanks so very much gang, for giving me the "whack" upside the head that I guess I need.

Nut